Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 8/3/2005 11:10 AM
http://www.weddingguide.co.uk/articles/planning/traditions.asp
http://www.weddingdetails.com/lore/english.cfm
English Traditions these traditions are pretty much done by everyone to this very day. the something blue, blah blah blah. the flower girl, now i didn't know that was an english thing. the good luck charm thing seems like a fun idea. though i doubt i would sew it into the hem of my dress or carry a full horshoe around. i could always do a simple bracelet with the charm on my wrist...or an ankle bracelet. lol the ribbon pull also seems like a fun idea. that's a really old tradition though and i doubt anyone actually does that. still it would be fun. and fun as this might be as well i don't think my priest would take too kindly to wedding guest throwing shoes at the limosine...let alone the driver. LOL
Mexican Traditions some of these traditions are still done to this day...one of the reasons why i'm starting to think a traditional wedding wasn't such a great idea after all...do you know how much all this is going to cost us? phff...the ceremony is only going to cost about 300 which is a nice price, but the lasso, coins, container for the coins bible and all that crap...someone told me it would cost me upwards of 450. no way am i paying that just for the ceremony. i'll make my fucking pillow myself and i'll use a plain ribbon if i have to for the lasso damn it! i'm cheap!!!! LOL i'm starting to like that pinata idea, but i don't think the restaurant will take to kindly to a pinata being ripped apart at the reception. maybe for the bridal shower? :)
North American Traditions i was planning on talking to the priest in regards to writing our own vows but rigid was having trouble with that. i don't think he can write. i wonder if it would be a bad thing for me to write his...he did ask me to? i think that would sort of defeat the purpose and make me seem like an even worse control freak than i already am. lol i figured i could have little bells around the reception area somewhere for people to ring for the stupid kiss thing, but i'm aftraid people will be ringing those things all night long. we'll be macking out in front of my family the rest of the night! i don't know about that.
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Wednesday, August 8, 2007
Items for the Ceremony
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 8/17/2005 8:50 AM
okay, this is going to be a major pain and something that i've complained about many, many, many times. i've tried to get quick estimates as to how much a whole package would cost and i've been told all sorts of things. one lady even told me that a nice package would cost upwards of $400....$400!!!! that's just for the ITEMS i'll need. of course it includes personalization and decoration but....i mean i could do most of that crap on my own and not have it look as tacky as all the things i've seen.
anyhow, most of you have no clue what i'm talking about here so i'll just go on. as you all well know i'm having a traditional roman catholic wedding. we mexicans always seem to have to do things the hard way. it's in our nature...at least it's in mine. besides this whole thing was rigids idea and then i got all into it and one thing led to the next so here i am. trying to figure out how i'm going to get all the accessories i need to so the priest can perform the ceremony and do it as cost effectivly as possible without breaking the bank. *breath*
here's what i think i'll need:
a lasso (cord), or a very large rosary is used to place over the bride and groom. while kneeling at the altar. I DONT KNOW WHY!!!! it can also be made out of twisted rope or i think pretty much anything. these can be super expensive especially if you get the in crystal. over $300.00 usually. BUT i think i can just buy the stupid rope myself if i have to and shove some decoration where the cross would be there slap in on with some glue! screw all that! LOL youn know what i'm going to do. grab a big string of fake pearls and attach a cross to it! that's a good one.
unity candles.....i have to get unity candles. argh!!! i dont like this. BUT i'll simply do my own. those will be easy
a white bible i'm sure will be required. although i'd rather have a black one.
the ring pillow. this isn't necessarily one i'd like either, but it's definately one of the things i'll need to have.
stupid kneeling pillows. these things can be expensive and the cheapest i've seen them were for 40.00! no way dude, i'm going to biglots to find myself a white sofa pillow. it'll be way cheaper! LOL
there are the "aras" to buy. these things are little containers usually made out of metal that are used for holding 13 coins. why the coins i will never quite understand ....i read about it too. completely forgot. something about the grooms gift. maybe it means he's supposed to give me money....lots of it! lol okay so it's the gooms pledge of trust and confidance and he gives it to the bride in recognition of his responsability as a provider. the brides acceptance means she wont open her legs to anyone else but him. hee heeee. i'm evil.
these are some more examples of aras. i do like the carriage one above, but it's almost 30.00 and the cheapest i've seen it is 25.00 in los angeles.
and of course a rosary.
and then theres the other little things i need to make sure we have like the flower girls basket, the brides maids bouquets, groomsmens buttoniers....maybe a corsage for my mom and best aunt...my granny. OH and let's not forget the wedding wands....oh no! not the wands....lest i have another nightmare about those STUPID wands. you know what....i'm starting to think i'm going to give the guests fuck all to wave at me after the ceremony. i think once i'm done i'll be so relieved that i'm just going to jump into the back of that limo and run off to take pictures. i won't even notice that no one threw anything at me. lol
i pretty much decided that i'm not going to do anything to decorate the church. i don't think i'll even buy flowers to decorate the altar. if anything i'll get one of my cousins center pieces and throw it up there and then grab it before we leave to put back on a table! LMAO!!! that would be great. lol can you tell i'm going batty.
omg, this is so stressfull! but you know what? my friend sally said she was going to help me put the bouquets together and help make the buttnoiers...i think we can work on some corsages for the old bags too (just kidding, i love my granny and mommie) so that will make the expense much less painful. she's even going to work on my veil. she's quite crafty and if anyone can help me pull it off it's her.
we were in the city this weekend and she was annoyed at the prices of th veils. for the really long ones it was anywhere from 30-100. she said she could do a better one for even less and i trust her....she's more anal than i am. especially about party stuff! lmao
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/17/2005 3:22 PM
Michelle,
I went to the craft store and bought my veil. It ws beatiful. I bought that...bought the comb and flowers for the top . And that was that. my viel ws layed in 4 layers. All together it was $30.00.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 7:39 AM
that's not bad....i did see quite a few veils and there were loads of them for about 30 bucks and they didn't look bad at all, but then if my friend can do the veil for me then i could maybe use a finer looking tulle or prettier ribbon than what's already on the premade ones. i could buy the materials for a veil that i might like that would otherwise cost 100 bucks and do it for less than 30....depending on what i buy of course.
i mean, i went to the craft store. the tulle in like a 100 yrd roll was about 8-9 dlls. obviously i'll barely even use a yard of it depending on how long i want it and then whatever ribbon to attach to the edges. the comb is like ....well it shouldn't be more than a few cents. so she could do it for less than 10 dlls. how cool is that? and these fuckers are charging 30...or more! phff....i just had to pay out 200dlls to get my car fixed. i HAVE to save every penny ....and i had no idea invitations where THAT expensive to do. omg!
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/18/2005 3:48 PM
Well....worry no more! ...Ahy Michelle!!! (en español, please....)..You forgot about me....!!!! I'll help you out with anything that you need!!! You should know that by now!!!
I'll wait for your e-mail, with all the info.......(names, couples, titles....etc....)
Love,
Elisa
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 3:52 PM
woohoo!!! my cousin joined my site today! :) hee hee....now i won't have to worry anymore. she's already told me how this stuff works!!!! she's got way more experience in this dpt i think. i've never been into all this traditional stuff...it's a pain, but it's pretty cool too. :)
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/19/2005 7:40 AM
oooh, so my cousin told me that i'm supposed to assign the items above to the bridesmaids.....i think misery had told me the same thing, but i just never felt comfortable with that. she did give me a few pointers in addition to insisting on getting the aras for me (you know, the box with the coins)....we kind of see it as a good luck or good fourtune type of thing.
anyway so the point is that she's trying to make me feel comfortable with assigning tasks to the bridesmaids....i'm not sure about that even if i get the stuff myself i'll still have to spread it around amongst them.....okay. back to work....
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/22/2005 10:38 AM
It can be a problem when you can't decide if you want a traditional Mexican weeding or an American..........The diference between the two is that in the Mexican you assign the church items to couples, because they become your padrinos (Godparents)...
For example:
Lazo-is the main item- so it should be assign to the Maid of Honor and the Best Man
Unity Candle-
Rings -
Araz -
Bible & Rosary -
Kneeling Pillows-
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plus how many Flower Girl(s) you want........(you can also partner them with a boy).
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/22/2005 2:31 PM
Man..Michelle you have something ahead of you...i am very glad that Vi did not wanna get married Cathlic. We were married Christian. I hope it all just goes smooth for you.
And "I WISH I COULD BE THERE TO HELP!!!"...
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/23/2005 9:25 AM
wtf....just what the hell do people think catholics are? LOL i went to all kinds of christian churches when i was younger. catholic, pentecostal, episcopalian, lutheran...all sorts...i even hung out with jehovah's witnessesssessss. i have this argument with rigid all the time....why do i say i'm not into religion? i'm a RETARD!
anyhow, yeah dude that cath church is a pain in the butt. i mean i love all the ritual of it and how old the church itself is but having to go through all this stuff has been so awful. i knew it was going to be hard, but i never imagined that the actual wedding date would hinge on it the way this has been. i was positive i'd at least have a good date by now, but with all this crap i don't know what i'm going to do.
right now, the councelor i spoke to said a session would cost 75.00 but that i needed to find out from the priest if it's one session or the whole wedding thing....some fucking marriage retreat thing. 75.00 per day for like 3 days. that's just insane!!! i'm going to kill my priest. it would have been easier if i'd have gotten married in my old lutheran church!!!!! but i didn't want to disapoint my family once again! they were already freaked out that it didn't look catholic in the church where i celebrated my 15th b-day. since lutheran and catholics have a lot of the same traditions though most people were pretty much fooled. lol sometimes we people are stupid. lmao!
anyhow, thanks for the support lisa. were seriously going to need it. going to call my priest later to see if there's something he can do to help me. i know that old bastard has a written test he could do instead. AI!!!! little fucker. LMAO i'm going to fucking HELL!!!!!!!!!
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/23/2005 1:04 PM
The idea of having padrinos(Godparents) is to help the soon to be married couple with the sponsoring of the church items....and to offer them support, during the preparation of the event.... and through married life........
Elisa
P.S. I think the more you learn about it....It will make better sence......
P.S. Michelle........Call Sally (our other favorite cousin) and ask her for help....She knows all about this too!!!
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 8/23/2005 1:54 PM
i'm so happy you guys are here to help, i have no idea about all this catholic stuff. i thought it was right to get married in the church, and as much as michelle tried to protest i knew deep down she wanted to do it too
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/23/2005 2:24 PM
Hey!!! Nathan how are you? We miss you too!! and those famous Banaaaanas!!!....I didn't know Michelle had this cite with all the Wedding stuff, until two days ago......
I'm soooo happy that Michelle is going through all this....(she might not agree with me)...is a great experience and I believe she deserves you wanting to go through a traditional ceremony....
See you soon!!!!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/23/2005 7:17 PM
Rigid you are so sweet!!!! Mah, we have ourselves some good guys!!!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/24/2005 7:49 AM
i know. it's amazing the effect they have on us. i can be so happy and elated one minute and the next enraged beyond anything i've ever felt in my life. *sigh* he can make it hard on me sometimes, but it's things like this that make me want to stick around. i have to admit that i told him several times i didn't care to marry in the church, but his rediculous persistance won me over and i relented. it's that dogged determination he has that inspires me to be a different person that i was....that i thought i was. :)
you know what? i think i derserve it too....that's impressive. :) for me that is. lol
thanks for the well wishes guys. this means so much!
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 8/17/2005 8:50 AM
okay, this is going to be a major pain and something that i've complained about many, many, many times. i've tried to get quick estimates as to how much a whole package would cost and i've been told all sorts of things. one lady even told me that a nice package would cost upwards of $400....$400!!!! that's just for the ITEMS i'll need. of course it includes personalization and decoration but....i mean i could do most of that crap on my own and not have it look as tacky as all the things i've seen.
anyhow, most of you have no clue what i'm talking about here so i'll just go on. as you all well know i'm having a traditional roman catholic wedding. we mexicans always seem to have to do things the hard way. it's in our nature...at least it's in mine. besides this whole thing was rigids idea and then i got all into it and one thing led to the next so here i am. trying to figure out how i'm going to get all the accessories i need to so the priest can perform the ceremony and do it as cost effectivly as possible without breaking the bank. *breath*
here's what i think i'll need:
a lasso (cord), or a very large rosary is used to place over the bride and groom. while kneeling at the altar. I DONT KNOW WHY!!!! it can also be made out of twisted rope or i think pretty much anything. these can be super expensive especially if you get the in crystal. over $300.00 usually. BUT i think i can just buy the stupid rope myself if i have to and shove some decoration where the cross would be there slap in on with some glue! screw all that! LOL youn know what i'm going to do. grab a big string of fake pearls and attach a cross to it! that's a good one.
unity candles.....i have to get unity candles. argh!!! i dont like this. BUT i'll simply do my own. those will be easy
a white bible i'm sure will be required. although i'd rather have a black one.
the ring pillow. this isn't necessarily one i'd like either, but it's definately one of the things i'll need to have.
stupid kneeling pillows. these things can be expensive and the cheapest i've seen them were for 40.00! no way dude, i'm going to biglots to find myself a white sofa pillow. it'll be way cheaper! LOL
there are the "aras" to buy. these things are little containers usually made out of metal that are used for holding 13 coins. why the coins i will never quite understand ....i read about it too. completely forgot. something about the grooms gift. maybe it means he's supposed to give me money....lots of it! lol okay so it's the gooms pledge of trust and confidance and he gives it to the bride in recognition of his responsability as a provider. the brides acceptance means she wont open her legs to anyone else but him. hee heeee. i'm evil.
these are some more examples of aras. i do like the carriage one above, but it's almost 30.00 and the cheapest i've seen it is 25.00 in los angeles.
and of course a rosary.
and then theres the other little things i need to make sure we have like the flower girls basket, the brides maids bouquets, groomsmens buttoniers....maybe a corsage for my mom and best aunt...my granny. OH and let's not forget the wedding wands....oh no! not the wands....lest i have another nightmare about those STUPID wands. you know what....i'm starting to think i'm going to give the guests fuck all to wave at me after the ceremony. i think once i'm done i'll be so relieved that i'm just going to jump into the back of that limo and run off to take pictures. i won't even notice that no one threw anything at me. lol
i pretty much decided that i'm not going to do anything to decorate the church. i don't think i'll even buy flowers to decorate the altar. if anything i'll get one of my cousins center pieces and throw it up there and then grab it before we leave to put back on a table! LMAO!!! that would be great. lol can you tell i'm going batty.
omg, this is so stressfull! but you know what? my friend sally said she was going to help me put the bouquets together and help make the buttnoiers...i think we can work on some corsages for the old bags too (just kidding, i love my granny and mommie) so that will make the expense much less painful. she's even going to work on my veil. she's quite crafty and if anyone can help me pull it off it's her.
we were in the city this weekend and she was annoyed at the prices of th veils. for the really long ones it was anywhere from 30-100. she said she could do a better one for even less and i trust her....she's more anal than i am. especially about party stuff! lmao
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/17/2005 3:22 PM
Michelle,
I went to the craft store and bought my veil. It ws beatiful. I bought that...bought the comb and flowers for the top . And that was that. my viel ws layed in 4 layers. All together it was $30.00.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 7:39 AM
that's not bad....i did see quite a few veils and there were loads of them for about 30 bucks and they didn't look bad at all, but then if my friend can do the veil for me then i could maybe use a finer looking tulle or prettier ribbon than what's already on the premade ones. i could buy the materials for a veil that i might like that would otherwise cost 100 bucks and do it for less than 30....depending on what i buy of course.
i mean, i went to the craft store. the tulle in like a 100 yrd roll was about 8-9 dlls. obviously i'll barely even use a yard of it depending on how long i want it and then whatever ribbon to attach to the edges. the comb is like ....well it shouldn't be more than a few cents. so she could do it for less than 10 dlls. how cool is that? and these fuckers are charging 30...or more! phff....i just had to pay out 200dlls to get my car fixed. i HAVE to save every penny ....and i had no idea invitations where THAT expensive to do. omg!
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/18/2005 3:48 PM
Well....worry no more! ...Ahy Michelle!!! (en español, please....)..You forgot about me....!!!! I'll help you out with anything that you need!!! You should know that by now!!!
I'll wait for your e-mail, with all the info.......(names, couples, titles....etc....)
Love,
Elisa
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 3:52 PM
woohoo!!! my cousin joined my site today! :) hee hee....now i won't have to worry anymore. she's already told me how this stuff works!!!! she's got way more experience in this dpt i think. i've never been into all this traditional stuff...it's a pain, but it's pretty cool too. :)
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/19/2005 7:40 AM
oooh, so my cousin told me that i'm supposed to assign the items above to the bridesmaids.....i think misery had told me the same thing, but i just never felt comfortable with that. she did give me a few pointers in addition to insisting on getting the aras for me (you know, the box with the coins)....we kind of see it as a good luck or good fourtune type of thing.
anyway so the point is that she's trying to make me feel comfortable with assigning tasks to the bridesmaids....i'm not sure about that even if i get the stuff myself i'll still have to spread it around amongst them.....okay. back to work....
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/22/2005 10:38 AM
It can be a problem when you can't decide if you want a traditional Mexican weeding or an American..........The diference between the two is that in the Mexican you assign the church items to couples, because they become your padrinos (Godparents)...
For example:
Lazo-is the main item- so it should be assign to the Maid of Honor and the Best Man
Unity Candle-
Rings -
Araz -
Bible & Rosary -
Kneeling Pillows-
---------------------------
plus how many Flower Girl(s) you want........(you can also partner them with a boy).
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/22/2005 2:31 PM
Man..Michelle you have something ahead of you...i am very glad that Vi did not wanna get married Cathlic. We were married Christian. I hope it all just goes smooth for you.
And "I WISH I COULD BE THERE TO HELP!!!"...
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/23/2005 9:25 AM
wtf....just what the hell do people think catholics are? LOL i went to all kinds of christian churches when i was younger. catholic, pentecostal, episcopalian, lutheran...all sorts...i even hung out with jehovah's witnessesssessss. i have this argument with rigid all the time....why do i say i'm not into religion? i'm a RETARD!
anyhow, yeah dude that cath church is a pain in the butt. i mean i love all the ritual of it and how old the church itself is but having to go through all this stuff has been so awful. i knew it was going to be hard, but i never imagined that the actual wedding date would hinge on it the way this has been. i was positive i'd at least have a good date by now, but with all this crap i don't know what i'm going to do.
right now, the councelor i spoke to said a session would cost 75.00 but that i needed to find out from the priest if it's one session or the whole wedding thing....some fucking marriage retreat thing. 75.00 per day for like 3 days. that's just insane!!! i'm going to kill my priest. it would have been easier if i'd have gotten married in my old lutheran church!!!!! but i didn't want to disapoint my family once again! they were already freaked out that it didn't look catholic in the church where i celebrated my 15th b-day. since lutheran and catholics have a lot of the same traditions though most people were pretty much fooled. lol sometimes we people are stupid. lmao!
anyhow, thanks for the support lisa. were seriously going to need it. going to call my priest later to see if there's something he can do to help me. i know that old bastard has a written test he could do instead. AI!!!! little fucker. LMAO i'm going to fucking HELL!!!!!!!!!
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/23/2005 1:04 PM
The idea of having padrinos(Godparents) is to help the soon to be married couple with the sponsoring of the church items....and to offer them support, during the preparation of the event.... and through married life........
Elisa
P.S. I think the more you learn about it....It will make better sence......
P.S. Michelle........Call Sally (our other favorite cousin) and ask her for help....She knows all about this too!!!
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 8/23/2005 1:54 PM
i'm so happy you guys are here to help, i have no idea about all this catholic stuff. i thought it was right to get married in the church, and as much as michelle tried to protest i knew deep down she wanted to do it too
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From: Elisa Sent: 8/23/2005 2:24 PM
Hey!!! Nathan how are you? We miss you too!! and those famous Banaaaanas!!!....I didn't know Michelle had this cite with all the Wedding stuff, until two days ago......
I'm soooo happy that Michelle is going through all this....(she might not agree with me)...is a great experience and I believe she deserves you wanting to go through a traditional ceremony....
See you soon!!!!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/23/2005 7:17 PM
Rigid you are so sweet!!!! Mah, we have ourselves some good guys!!!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/24/2005 7:49 AM
i know. it's amazing the effect they have on us. i can be so happy and elated one minute and the next enraged beyond anything i've ever felt in my life. *sigh* he can make it hard on me sometimes, but it's things like this that make me want to stick around. i have to admit that i told him several times i didn't care to marry in the church, but his rediculous persistance won me over and i relented. it's that dogged determination he has that inspires me to be a different person that i was....that i thought i was. :)
you know what? i think i derserve it too....that's impressive. :) for me that is. lol
thanks for the well wishes guys. this means so much!
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From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/29/2005 8:44 AM
so now the question would be do i deal with having to split up a large family into other tables or do i fit as many as i can on a table for 10?
for example: my friend is bringing,
a sister brother in law brother mother husband self child child infant
that's 8 plus a booster chair.....which i have to make sure they have. that would leave room for one more person to sit at that table.....and i'm probably not going to have that many singles there. or if i do the 6 per table thing they would have to fit the booster seat in a corner, which i don't see being a problem as i see people do that all the time, then two adults would have to sit elsewhere.
see, here's my problem. originally everyone in the bridal party was going to sit at the head table, (which by the way leaves plenty of room for an entire family to sit at the table) but my friends kids can't sit without her so she pretty much made it clear that sitting at the head table for dinner would just about be out of the question. my sister is the only other girl with kids and my nephew and niece can sit with my mom. granted, my nephew is autistic and will probably run back and forth from my sister to my mom to....wherever he decides to go, but that's not a problem. at all. in fact i could care less if kids are running back and forth from the head table.....they're kids.
whatever, so now another one of my issues is figuring out whether to keep the head table minus my friend or deconstruct the head table to only include the maid of honor and the best man.....OR just have rigid and myself on our own. ..... i like the first choice personally. maybe people might think having a wedding party is silly, but i've always envisioned my wedding with the bridal party at the head. not strewn about the reception area. and i think that will keep everyone happy....i hope.
had i already decided on this? i can't remember who i spoke to about it. probably everyone. i'm starting to forget i'm repeating things. i should probably write these things down. LOL WAIT A MIN!!!!!!! i'm forgetting a kid......
a sister
brother in law
their son!!!!
brother
mother
husband
self
child
child
infant
wow, so if i do a table for 10 i won't have to split this table up.......hmm.....WHAT SHOULD I DO? help. :(
note: i'm only using this as an example to help me figure out once and for all how many people per table i should have. this will change the dynamic of the room i think. having longer tables will make the room look different and i think probably less cozy. a table for 6 is nice and intimate, but....at the same time the thought of having unhappy and complaniny people at my wedding is making me sick to my stomach so a little insight might be helpful.
thanks guys. :)
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/29/2005 12:59 PM
I have an idea! (why do I always have something to say?!?!??? (metiche )),
What if you have 4 tables of 10...that is a total of 40 seats
and 6 tables of 6....that is a total of 36
and I think you mention you have 76 people on your list.......
you can put the 4 big tables on each end (east,west,noth,south) and the 6 of 6 inside......and their you have the cozy setting!!!.....
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/29/2005 8:22 PM
your probably the only one that's interested. LOL just kidding.
actually that's a really nice idea too. there are loads of things to take into consideration. i have to go in with that girl at geezers and check it out, but i want to go in there with either nancy or my sister so we can talk about the dynamic of the room.
i just don't want to walk in there and have it look like chucky cheese's you know? lol i mean just a bunch of long tables in a row. that would be so boring. i think i'd definately like to do two centerpieces per 10 person table and one per 6 person table. if it were mixed up the way your saying i think that would look nice.
ai i have so much on my mind!!! and thanks a million for always listening to me prima. i really appreciate it. :)
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/29/2005 8:44 AM
so now the question would be do i deal with having to split up a large family into other tables or do i fit as many as i can on a table for 10?
for example: my friend is bringing,
a sister brother in law brother mother husband self child child infant
that's 8 plus a booster chair.....which i have to make sure they have. that would leave room for one more person to sit at that table.....and i'm probably not going to have that many singles there. or if i do the 6 per table thing they would have to fit the booster seat in a corner, which i don't see being a problem as i see people do that all the time, then two adults would have to sit elsewhere.
see, here's my problem. originally everyone in the bridal party was going to sit at the head table, (which by the way leaves plenty of room for an entire family to sit at the table) but my friends kids can't sit without her so she pretty much made it clear that sitting at the head table for dinner would just about be out of the question. my sister is the only other girl with kids and my nephew and niece can sit with my mom. granted, my nephew is autistic and will probably run back and forth from my sister to my mom to....wherever he decides to go, but that's not a problem. at all. in fact i could care less if kids are running back and forth from the head table.....they're kids.
whatever, so now another one of my issues is figuring out whether to keep the head table minus my friend or deconstruct the head table to only include the maid of honor and the best man.....OR just have rigid and myself on our own. ..... i like the first choice personally. maybe people might think having a wedding party is silly, but i've always envisioned my wedding with the bridal party at the head. not strewn about the reception area. and i think that will keep everyone happy....i hope.
had i already decided on this? i can't remember who i spoke to about it. probably everyone. i'm starting to forget i'm repeating things. i should probably write these things down. LOL WAIT A MIN!!!!!!! i'm forgetting a kid......
a sister
brother in law
their son!!!!
brother
mother
husband
self
child
child
infant
wow, so if i do a table for 10 i won't have to split this table up.......hmm.....WHAT SHOULD I DO? help. :(
note: i'm only using this as an example to help me figure out once and for all how many people per table i should have. this will change the dynamic of the room i think. having longer tables will make the room look different and i think probably less cozy. a table for 6 is nice and intimate, but....at the same time the thought of having unhappy and complaniny people at my wedding is making me sick to my stomach so a little insight might be helpful.
thanks guys. :)
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/29/2005 12:59 PM
I have an idea! (why do I always have something to say?!?!??? (metiche )),
What if you have 4 tables of 10...that is a total of 40 seats
and 6 tables of 6....that is a total of 36
and I think you mention you have 76 people on your list.......
you can put the 4 big tables on each end (east,west,noth,south) and the 6 of 6 inside......and their you have the cozy setting!!!.....
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/29/2005 8:22 PM
your probably the only one that's interested. LOL just kidding.
actually that's a really nice idea too. there are loads of things to take into consideration. i have to go in with that girl at geezers and check it out, but i want to go in there with either nancy or my sister so we can talk about the dynamic of the room.
i just don't want to walk in there and have it look like chucky cheese's you know? lol i mean just a bunch of long tables in a row. that would be so boring. i think i'd definately like to do two centerpieces per 10 person table and one per 6 person table. if it were mixed up the way your saying i think that would look nice.
ai i have so much on my mind!!! and thanks a million for always listening to me prima. i really appreciate it. :)
Champage and Wine
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/4/2005 10:25 AM
okay, so yesterday rigid upset me when i came home with a case of Asti Spumante for the weddnig toast. my friend chris took me to the San Antonio Winery to check out wines and champagne. i already bought the wine for the wedding but she didn't want me to spend money on champagne that i wasn't going to enjoy.
i'll be honest. i wasn't planning on spending more than 5 bucks a bottle. oh yes, you can get away with that, but it's probably not going to taste great. when does champagne taste great anyhow right? it's usually horrible and bitter anyway. and yes, i've had don perignon and it still tastes like poop. i'm just not that refined. lol in otherwords my tongue is not dead. oh and yes....at 5 bucks a pop you best bet your not getting real champagne. all champagne is sparkling wine...i know that...i knew that when i came home with the asti, but when rigid saw that it was asti and i was calling it champagne he freaked.
suddenly i dont know what i'm doing when choosing something to toast with. suddenly i don't know anything. i was shocked with what i came home to. so shocked that i didn't know what to say to him. suddenly i couldn't remember the difference between sparkling wine and champagne.......suddenly i became a really stupid low brow little girl. um......huh?
course he would never say anything like that to me but with the way he reacted that was most certainly what i felt like. so of course when someone makes me feel like a moron about something i look it up. i'm glad i did because it saved the arguement. after i researched it for 10 min i realized i was right and that i made the right choice given the fact that my budget isn't what it could be. so i went back to him prepared to face him once again armed and reasured by my 10 research. lol
what was his arguement?....that he could have told me that moet chardon was much better than asi spumante and should have gone to the winery with me. he's that much more informed than i. wow....staggering. let me see....moet chardon.....that's a 32-55 dlr bottle of SPARKLING WINE MADE IN FRANCE! i was so pissed off!!!!!! now i'm laughing about it, but jesus! sometimes the arguements we get into are so laughable that you can't do anything but LAUGH.
well, once i figured out what he was arguing about and realized what he was he was REALLY arguing about we were okay. i really should have taken him with me to decide on the champagne. a lot of the time i've been making decisions without even asking his opinion. i've included him in loads of things. he's helped me research ton's of places for the reception. done the footwork with the priest, the restaurant, found the dj and loads of stuff.... but there's also things i've done without bothering to run it by him first and that's my mistake.
ah well....*snicker* he'll get over it! so i have asti spumante and reisling. i love reisling. i drank it once and one of my fav thai resaurants...and i don't really like thai, but this place was great. rigid and i had our first "date" here when he first came down from england. i believe that's where he first tried reisling too and he's been in love with the wine ever since. i couldn't afford the one i wanted, but i did get the next best thing and for a very reasonable price. i hope everyone enjoys it as much as rigid and i do.
everything's coming together little by little....
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/4/2005 10:37 AM
I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO SPELL MOET & CHANDON!!!!!! CHANDON!!!!!!!!!! lol i'm a retard.
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/4/2005 10:25 AM
okay, so yesterday rigid upset me when i came home with a case of Asti Spumante for the weddnig toast. my friend chris took me to the San Antonio Winery to check out wines and champagne. i already bought the wine for the wedding but she didn't want me to spend money on champagne that i wasn't going to enjoy.
i'll be honest. i wasn't planning on spending more than 5 bucks a bottle. oh yes, you can get away with that, but it's probably not going to taste great. when does champagne taste great anyhow right? it's usually horrible and bitter anyway. and yes, i've had don perignon and it still tastes like poop. i'm just not that refined. lol in otherwords my tongue is not dead. oh and yes....at 5 bucks a pop you best bet your not getting real champagne. all champagne is sparkling wine...i know that...i knew that when i came home with the asti, but when rigid saw that it was asti and i was calling it champagne he freaked.
suddenly i dont know what i'm doing when choosing something to toast with. suddenly i don't know anything. i was shocked with what i came home to. so shocked that i didn't know what to say to him. suddenly i couldn't remember the difference between sparkling wine and champagne.......suddenly i became a really stupid low brow little girl. um......huh?
course he would never say anything like that to me but with the way he reacted that was most certainly what i felt like. so of course when someone makes me feel like a moron about something i look it up. i'm glad i did because it saved the arguement. after i researched it for 10 min i realized i was right and that i made the right choice given the fact that my budget isn't what it could be. so i went back to him prepared to face him once again armed and reasured by my 10 research. lol
what was his arguement?....that he could have told me that moet chardon was much better than asi spumante and should have gone to the winery with me. he's that much more informed than i. wow....staggering. let me see....moet chardon.....that's a 32-55 dlr bottle of SPARKLING WINE MADE IN FRANCE! i was so pissed off!!!!!! now i'm laughing about it, but jesus! sometimes the arguements we get into are so laughable that you can't do anything but LAUGH.
well, once i figured out what he was arguing about and realized what he was he was REALLY arguing about we were okay. i really should have taken him with me to decide on the champagne. a lot of the time i've been making decisions without even asking his opinion. i've included him in loads of things. he's helped me research ton's of places for the reception. done the footwork with the priest, the restaurant, found the dj and loads of stuff.... but there's also things i've done without bothering to run it by him first and that's my mistake.
ah well....*snicker* he'll get over it! so i have asti spumante and reisling. i love reisling. i drank it once and one of my fav thai resaurants...and i don't really like thai, but this place was great. rigid and i had our first "date" here when he first came down from england. i believe that's where he first tried reisling too and he's been in love with the wine ever since. i couldn't afford the one i wanted, but i did get the next best thing and for a very reasonable price. i hope everyone enjoys it as much as rigid and i do.
everything's coming together little by little....
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I DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO SPELL MOET & CHANDON!!!!!! CHANDON!!!!!!!!!! lol i'm a retard.
Confessions of a Bride: Bridezilla Strikes!
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/3/2005 9:44 AM
hi, my name is maharet and i'm a bridezilla. LMAO (that's "Laughing My Ass Off" for you computer ...i was going to say illiterate, but i don't want to upset anyone. HAHAHAHAHA) i am about ready to go postal on everyone. i'm freaking out about stupid things. concentrating on little details that i really should be leaving up to other people. why???? is it my nature to want to control everything around me at all times? don't you dare answer that you fuckers!
you know what i mean....i know you do it to...yeah you! you know who you are.....were all the same. were getting married, were planning all the details, not leaving anything massive to anyone...then suddenly your not even leaving the little things to anyone. suddenly your miss bridezilla controlfreakextrordinaire and everyone is just about this close to hating you. lol no, i know i'm exaggerating and no one hates me but i'm honestly starting to hate myself. WHEN DID I TURN INTO SUCH A WHINNY BITCH?
it seems like just when one of my friends plugs up a hole i didn't know was there another one has to suddenly come to my rescue for something entirely different, but.....as they say, knowing is half the battle... i think i got that from GI Joe. lol and i think i've finally realized what's wrong with me. yes, there's pressure from work under which i'm about to crack at any moment. there's pressure from my wedding plans, though friends and family are helping me out as best as they can. to be honest though i think most of the pressure on either of these two things is simply coming from me. i'm starting to panic and am making mistakes because i'm so fucking TIRED. the other day i took rigid with me to downtown to buy a few things. i couldn't find nice ribbon anywhere and i needed some for my invites....wonderful.....i go to downtown and don't find much of what i need. why? went on a sunday. i bought one of the ribbons i liked and a few extras just in case. i realized after i was at another store two blocks away that i wasn't sure if i liked the ribbon at all....
at the other store i bought the silver paint for my stand and cage. great. so then i get the bright idea to buy 50 yrds of tulle....awesome. i mean i don't know what the hell i'm going to do with it but my crafty friend with know what to do....she always knows what to do with loads of tulle. LMAO so i bought it. they didn't have anything to put the crap in and they didn't have that much pre-rolled for me so the BITCH (the girl behind the counter) took 50 yards and shoved it into a black garbage back and charged me .10 cents less for the tulle and aske me if that was okay. i said sure......as i got into the car i started to realize that the tulle was going to rumple really badly, and rumple it did. by the time we got home after all the other shopping the tulle was a mess. it was completely wrinkled and i was pissed. i nearly started to cry. part of that was supposed to go to my veil and know i can't fucking use it. so i thought...don't panic. i'll take my friend with me and we'll get tulle just for my veil or maybe even just freaking buy one ready made.
but it seems like.....i don't even know what i'm complaining about now. it seems like i take care of one little thing and another stupid little thing comes up and all these silly little things are starting to pile up on me. so i'm stressed...and i'm stressed......and i'm fucking shitting my pants because i'm stressed. lol i think i'm stressing everyone around me just because i'm stressed out and it has to stop. i have to start enjoying this at some point and i think that point should pretty much be now. i mean dont get me wrong. i've been having fun with all the planning, but i think my problem is an emotional turmoil that i probably can't stamp out for a long while and all i can do is give myself time to heal....well, i'm going full steam ahead with my wedding and heal i will.....before, during and after my wedding. HAH so there emotions. chew on that for a bit.
with that being said after having stayed up until 1:15 in the very early morning with my crafty friend who came to my emotional rescue (i have to mention that misery also had come to my rescue earlier in the day....so she felt sorry for me and invited me to the movies. lol jk i know you didn't feel sorry for me. oh hell....just admit it. you did, even just a little bit. lmao) i realized something. no...no no no no no, i can't make everyone happy. but i sure as hell am going to try (within reaon). no, i can't control everything, but i'm going to work hard to make things happen as smoothly as possible. okay, my emotions are going to run high the next few weeks, but i have to get a hold of myself and keep my prespective and finally NO....i'm not alone. i have my friends and they'll ALWAYS be there for me so long as i don't push them away.
i think the hardest part for me has been asking for help. but this is just about crunch time and at this point i'm goint to take all the help i can get. SO these are my goals for the next few weeks:
if we decide to do a bridal shower it will have to be on the 22nd. pumpo is doing a halloween party on the 29th. though he did offer to do halfers at his girlfriends house (halfday bridal/half day halloween party). they offered before, but of course who could have guessed that i, being the dumbass that i am, would have choseN halloween weekend to do a bridal thing.... HAHAHAHA it had to be me. what would this mean two parties in one! woohooo, and granted i had considered doing a halloween/bridal party anyhow, but i'm still not sure....i think this would also mean loads of pressure on the host for the bridal AND the halloween party and i simply don't want to do that to pumpo and cat. nice as it would have been, there is no way i could impose like that so if mis and i decide to go through with this it will have to be the saturday before or after halloween.
i have to buy the lasso and decide on a veil so i'm taking my friends this weekend to downtown. yippe another girlday. and let me tell you i really need this one! lol this will give me the opportunity to check out some more veils and decide on whether or not to have one made or buy one ready made. if we do a shower i'll buy some preprinted invites there or:
buy the shower invites online. i'll only need a few i think so i can get away with that and still keep cost down.
get the word out that the shower will be a simple bb-q/potluck. i just want us to have a little preparty to have a little fun and release a little pressure not create more so i have to remind myself to have fun with this.
i want to do my own cake for the shower and I DON'T CARE! ha ha ha ha. everyone knows i wanted to do my own cake for the wedding ,but i got talked out of it...which is a good thing, but i don't think i can be talked out of the shower cake!!! it's my therapy! :)
choose a date for the bridal shower. either a week before or after or joint. eitherway i intend on going to a halloween party!!! muahahahaha.
and last but not least, pay the organist, pay for the marriage license and take my pre-wedding pic's at the photographers & buy the CHAMPAGNE. *clapping wildly* hee hee hee hee heeee......
i'm starting to feel like my old self again. so many things to do and so very little time, but i intend on making the most of it. tonight, my friend/hair ariteest is going to take me to a winery to check out some champagne. said it would be cheaper and vowed to ply me with a bottle of wine and start on a pre-wedding hairdo. so in the end i know things will come together just the way it's supposed to. and i, and everyone else, just have to go along with the ride.*sigh* amen and hallelujah! lol
stay tuned for my next installment: Bridezilla Attacks Again!!!! (insert horribly screechy godzilla noise here)
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Going Bridal : silly stuff in here. i love the confessions. i'll have to write my own! he hee hee
BridezillaSyndrome: i have yet to read this
The B-Word: well, at least it's me calling myself bridezilla and it's only for my own emotional hell that i'm putting myself through. but i'm better now *twitch* i really am.... . *bites ear*
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/3/2005 9:44 AM
hi, my name is maharet and i'm a bridezilla. LMAO (that's "Laughing My Ass Off" for you computer ...i was going to say illiterate, but i don't want to upset anyone. HAHAHAHAHA) i am about ready to go postal on everyone. i'm freaking out about stupid things. concentrating on little details that i really should be leaving up to other people. why???? is it my nature to want to control everything around me at all times? don't you dare answer that you fuckers!
you know what i mean....i know you do it to...yeah you! you know who you are.....were all the same. were getting married, were planning all the details, not leaving anything massive to anyone...then suddenly your not even leaving the little things to anyone. suddenly your miss bridezilla controlfreakextrordinaire and everyone is just about this close to hating you. lol no, i know i'm exaggerating and no one hates me but i'm honestly starting to hate myself. WHEN DID I TURN INTO SUCH A WHINNY BITCH?
it seems like just when one of my friends plugs up a hole i didn't know was there another one has to suddenly come to my rescue for something entirely different, but.....as they say, knowing is half the battle... i think i got that from GI Joe. lol and i think i've finally realized what's wrong with me. yes, there's pressure from work under which i'm about to crack at any moment. there's pressure from my wedding plans, though friends and family are helping me out as best as they can. to be honest though i think most of the pressure on either of these two things is simply coming from me. i'm starting to panic and am making mistakes because i'm so fucking TIRED. the other day i took rigid with me to downtown to buy a few things. i couldn't find nice ribbon anywhere and i needed some for my invites....wonderful.....i go to downtown and don't find much of what i need. why? went on a sunday. i bought one of the ribbons i liked and a few extras just in case. i realized after i was at another store two blocks away that i wasn't sure if i liked the ribbon at all....
at the other store i bought the silver paint for my stand and cage. great. so then i get the bright idea to buy 50 yrds of tulle....awesome. i mean i don't know what the hell i'm going to do with it but my crafty friend with know what to do....she always knows what to do with loads of tulle. LMAO so i bought it. they didn't have anything to put the crap in and they didn't have that much pre-rolled for me so the BITCH (the girl behind the counter) took 50 yards and shoved it into a black garbage back and charged me .10 cents less for the tulle and aske me if that was okay. i said sure......as i got into the car i started to realize that the tulle was going to rumple really badly, and rumple it did. by the time we got home after all the other shopping the tulle was a mess. it was completely wrinkled and i was pissed. i nearly started to cry. part of that was supposed to go to my veil and know i can't fucking use it. so i thought...don't panic. i'll take my friend with me and we'll get tulle just for my veil or maybe even just freaking buy one ready made.
but it seems like.....i don't even know what i'm complaining about now. it seems like i take care of one little thing and another stupid little thing comes up and all these silly little things are starting to pile up on me. so i'm stressed...and i'm stressed......and i'm fucking shitting my pants because i'm stressed. lol i think i'm stressing everyone around me just because i'm stressed out and it has to stop. i have to start enjoying this at some point and i think that point should pretty much be now. i mean dont get me wrong. i've been having fun with all the planning, but i think my problem is an emotional turmoil that i probably can't stamp out for a long while and all i can do is give myself time to heal....well, i'm going full steam ahead with my wedding and heal i will.....before, during and after my wedding. HAH so there emotions. chew on that for a bit.
with that being said after having stayed up until 1:15 in the very early morning with my crafty friend who came to my emotional rescue (i have to mention that misery also had come to my rescue earlier in the day....so she felt sorry for me and invited me to the movies. lol jk i know you didn't feel sorry for me. oh hell....just admit it. you did, even just a little bit. lmao) i realized something. no...no no no no no, i can't make everyone happy. but i sure as hell am going to try (within reaon). no, i can't control everything, but i'm going to work hard to make things happen as smoothly as possible. okay, my emotions are going to run high the next few weeks, but i have to get a hold of myself and keep my prespective and finally NO....i'm not alone. i have my friends and they'll ALWAYS be there for me so long as i don't push them away.
i think the hardest part for me has been asking for help. but this is just about crunch time and at this point i'm goint to take all the help i can get. SO these are my goals for the next few weeks:
if we decide to do a bridal shower it will have to be on the 22nd. pumpo is doing a halloween party on the 29th. though he did offer to do halfers at his girlfriends house (halfday bridal/half day halloween party). they offered before, but of course who could have guessed that i, being the dumbass that i am, would have choseN halloween weekend to do a bridal thing.... HAHAHAHA it had to be me. what would this mean two parties in one! woohooo, and granted i had considered doing a halloween/bridal party anyhow, but i'm still not sure....i think this would also mean loads of pressure on the host for the bridal AND the halloween party and i simply don't want to do that to pumpo and cat. nice as it would have been, there is no way i could impose like that so if mis and i decide to go through with this it will have to be the saturday before or after halloween.
i have to buy the lasso and decide on a veil so i'm taking my friends this weekend to downtown. yippe another girlday. and let me tell you i really need this one! lol this will give me the opportunity to check out some more veils and decide on whether or not to have one made or buy one ready made. if we do a shower i'll buy some preprinted invites there or:
buy the shower invites online. i'll only need a few i think so i can get away with that and still keep cost down.
get the word out that the shower will be a simple bb-q/potluck. i just want us to have a little preparty to have a little fun and release a little pressure not create more so i have to remind myself to have fun with this.
i want to do my own cake for the shower and I DON'T CARE! ha ha ha ha. everyone knows i wanted to do my own cake for the wedding ,but i got talked out of it...which is a good thing, but i don't think i can be talked out of the shower cake!!! it's my therapy! :)
choose a date for the bridal shower. either a week before or after or joint. eitherway i intend on going to a halloween party!!! muahahahaha.
and last but not least, pay the organist, pay for the marriage license and take my pre-wedding pic's at the photographers & buy the CHAMPAGNE. *clapping wildly* hee hee hee hee heeee......
i'm starting to feel like my old self again. so many things to do and so very little time, but i intend on making the most of it. tonight, my friend/hair ariteest is going to take me to a winery to check out some champagne. said it would be cheaper and vowed to ply me with a bottle of wine and start on a pre-wedding hairdo. so in the end i know things will come together just the way it's supposed to. and i, and everyone else, just have to go along with the ride.*sigh* amen and hallelujah! lol
stay tuned for my next installment: Bridezilla Attacks Again!!!! (insert horribly screechy godzilla noise here)
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Going Bridal : silly stuff in here. i love the confessions. i'll have to write my own! he hee hee
BridezillaSyndrome: i have yet to read this
The B-Word: well, at least it's me calling myself bridezilla and it's only for my own emotional hell that i'm putting myself through. but i'm better now *twitch* i really am.... . *bites ear*
1st Photography Session
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/11/2005 8:48 AM
well, last week on thrusday was our first photography session together. first of all we had a really hard time getting a hold of our photographer that day. the girl that kept picking up the phone had no clue what she was doing and the photographer was in and out all day. all i wanted to do was confirm the session that we had scheduled that day but the guy never called back to confirm.
i can't imagine why i agreed to such a tight schedule. i'm usually really tired when i get home from work so 4:30 was really pushing it and when this guy wasn't getting back to us we figured he was going to be a no show. i called him one last time at about 15 till and he was there. i was so mad....course i just found out that rigid had called the girl an idiot. not a good way to start a relationship with your wedding photographer....so then he and i ended up getting into a fight about that.
that's a lot of money i'm giving that man and i'm not about to have someone ruin my pictures because of an impulse control problem. so after we resolved that and got a hold of the photographer we scrambled to get ready. nervous and giddy we began to get dressed. rigid was done in 10 min, i hate men, and i was still looking in my closet for something to wear. it was horrible. i couldn't find anything and i hadn't gone out shopping for anything special just for this. NO TIME...the horror.....THE HORROR.
well, in the end i went for my corset, a blouse and the pants i wore to work. bad, bad, bad idea. the blouse brought WAY to much attention to my chest and it was practically popping out because of the corset. good thing i wore a bra under the whole thing cause it would have been a complete disaster otherwise. so after we got there the photographer made us wait an intolerable amount of time. he wanted to take us to the park but wasn't prepared. sucked cause we could have had the pictures taken at a beach or anywhere, but i didn't know. ASSHOLE! granted he was apologizing left and right for the delay, but it was a pain to have had to wait that long .
whatever the case may be we ended up at a park. the first thing he did was have me sit on a chain....crappers. my fat ass on a chain??? and then he wanted me to cross my legs. i'm trying to hold myself up and keep my tits from falling out and this guy wants me to cross my legs on a chain. MY BUTT HURT!!! and then he keeps coming up to me to try and adjust me to look more normal. i'm sweating bullets by this time and i'm totally embarrased. what was i thinking????? it got a little easier after that. i don't know how many times rigid tried to reassure me that i looked fine and that i was beautiful...all i knew was that i was on the verge of making my own pornography. lol i seriously DO NOT think i'll be passing out any of those pictures.
omg.....i swear the things i go through.
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:22 AM
Well trust me maha as much as you hate the fact that anthan was ready in like 10 minutes im sure he was loathing having to wait for you to get ready as I do with Lisa course much later down the road both of you will be able to sit down and enjoy the pics btw you should post em in here as part of your wedding preps. Plus you should make sure your photographer knows how to shoot nice pics of the 2 of you so that your skin and outfits look nice and one doesnt overpower the other. So did you do your makeup the same way your gonna do it on your wedding day? Thats important so you get an accurate idea of how your gonna look in the real pics and when it comes to doing all this stuff realize this. everyone who performs a service at weddings does a ton of them so while its the most important day of your life it's just another day at the office for them so try to take a deep breath and relax when dealing with these insensitive lil pricks and prikettes. The most important thing to happen on yuouwedding day is getting married having a good time and to smile,dance, and kiss a lot! Everything else will fall into place and the mental pics from that day will last forever and always be way better than those captured on film
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/11/2005 11:02 AM
oh no....your making me cry!
WHERE THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN???? if anyone had told me what you just did i would have done just that. i did my makeup so fast and in the car!!!....i didn't do anything special either. i can't even remember if i put on any eyeshadow.
*sigh* but your right. and you know, if i'm not happy with the pictures i'm going to make him retake them. then i'll be able to prepare a little better. do my makeup and have my hair done.
that was really great advise vi! THANKS. :)
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 10/11/2005 1:40 PM
well fuck if i'd known that i would of had my hair cut by simmers gay cuban stylist so i can look good on the pictures and decide if i'm gonna have my hair a certain way @$@#%$#%%$^&
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:36 AM
I'm really shutting up now no crying I'm sure the good man knows what he is doing... Just smile and remember not to sit on any chains in your lovely wedding dress and dont let him accidently bump your boob either.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 11:45 AM
dude...........that boob thing in dance class was funny!!! lol
now i really want to see the picture. *biting nails*
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/11/2005 8:48 AM
well, last week on thrusday was our first photography session together. first of all we had a really hard time getting a hold of our photographer that day. the girl that kept picking up the phone had no clue what she was doing and the photographer was in and out all day. all i wanted to do was confirm the session that we had scheduled that day but the guy never called back to confirm.
i can't imagine why i agreed to such a tight schedule. i'm usually really tired when i get home from work so 4:30 was really pushing it and when this guy wasn't getting back to us we figured he was going to be a no show. i called him one last time at about 15 till and he was there. i was so mad....course i just found out that rigid had called the girl an idiot. not a good way to start a relationship with your wedding photographer....so then he and i ended up getting into a fight about that.
that's a lot of money i'm giving that man and i'm not about to have someone ruin my pictures because of an impulse control problem. so after we resolved that and got a hold of the photographer we scrambled to get ready. nervous and giddy we began to get dressed. rigid was done in 10 min, i hate men, and i was still looking in my closet for something to wear. it was horrible. i couldn't find anything and i hadn't gone out shopping for anything special just for this. NO TIME...the horror.....THE HORROR.
well, in the end i went for my corset, a blouse and the pants i wore to work. bad, bad, bad idea. the blouse brought WAY to much attention to my chest and it was practically popping out because of the corset. good thing i wore a bra under the whole thing cause it would have been a complete disaster otherwise. so after we got there the photographer made us wait an intolerable amount of time. he wanted to take us to the park but wasn't prepared. sucked cause we could have had the pictures taken at a beach or anywhere, but i didn't know. ASSHOLE! granted he was apologizing left and right for the delay, but it was a pain to have had to wait that long .
whatever the case may be we ended up at a park. the first thing he did was have me sit on a chain....crappers. my fat ass on a chain??? and then he wanted me to cross my legs. i'm trying to hold myself up and keep my tits from falling out and this guy wants me to cross my legs on a chain. MY BUTT HURT!!! and then he keeps coming up to me to try and adjust me to look more normal. i'm sweating bullets by this time and i'm totally embarrased. what was i thinking????? it got a little easier after that. i don't know how many times rigid tried to reassure me that i looked fine and that i was beautiful...all i knew was that i was on the verge of making my own pornography. lol i seriously DO NOT think i'll be passing out any of those pictures.
omg.....i swear the things i go through.
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:22 AM
Well trust me maha as much as you hate the fact that anthan was ready in like 10 minutes im sure he was loathing having to wait for you to get ready as I do with Lisa course much later down the road both of you will be able to sit down and enjoy the pics btw you should post em in here as part of your wedding preps. Plus you should make sure your photographer knows how to shoot nice pics of the 2 of you so that your skin and outfits look nice and one doesnt overpower the other. So did you do your makeup the same way your gonna do it on your wedding day? Thats important so you get an accurate idea of how your gonna look in the real pics and when it comes to doing all this stuff realize this. everyone who performs a service at weddings does a ton of them so while its the most important day of your life it's just another day at the office for them so try to take a deep breath and relax when dealing with these insensitive lil pricks and prikettes. The most important thing to happen on yuouwedding day is getting married having a good time and to smile,dance, and kiss a lot! Everything else will fall into place and the mental pics from that day will last forever and always be way better than those captured on film
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/11/2005 11:02 AM
oh no....your making me cry!
WHERE THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN???? if anyone had told me what you just did i would have done just that. i did my makeup so fast and in the car!!!....i didn't do anything special either. i can't even remember if i put on any eyeshadow.
*sigh* but your right. and you know, if i'm not happy with the pictures i'm going to make him retake them. then i'll be able to prepare a little better. do my makeup and have my hair done.
that was really great advise vi! THANKS. :)
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 10/11/2005 1:40 PM
well fuck if i'd known that i would of had my hair cut by simmers gay cuban stylist so i can look good on the pictures and decide if i'm gonna have my hair a certain way @$@#%$#%%$^&
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:36 AM
I'm really shutting up now no crying I'm sure the good man knows what he is doing... Just smile and remember not to sit on any chains in your lovely wedding dress and dont let him accidently bump your boob either.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 11:45 AM
dude...........that boob thing in dance class was funny!!! lol
now i really want to see the picture. *biting nails*
Guest List Conundrum
Maharet's Brood: "Guest List Conundrum"
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/19/2005 11:18 AM
i've been so busy at home and at work that i'm about to crack up. they've just given me a temp to work with for a few hours today and all that did was slow me down for the rest of the day. now i feel like i haven't gotten anything done today and like i'm not going to either.
i've gotten loads of things done in preperation for the wedding too, but i still have quite a lot to buy. my check list is almost complete though. and i'm trying to finish off my guest list as well. i've filled up all the chairs by including the children.
had a conversation with my friend the other day and she told me that in the weddings she's been to people will customarily pay for an adult dinner so the kids will have a seat. i redid my list to include the kids that i already have on my list and if i don't invite anyone else i have a total of 76 on it. not including kids under 10 for an adult meal though...there's my nephew, my cuz' kid and a couple of other kids under 10.
i think that leaves me with a few options.:
i can order pizza or finger foods for the kids under 10 (i know i've discussed this with all of you already but i can't help feeling overwhelmingly guilty about making people feed their kids before coming to the reception or gettnig them something there themselves). maybe even get them a table where food will be served specifically for them. (i have to discuss that option with geezers)
if i do the above i can either leave the list as is and only invite those currently on it
OR i can invite over the current guest list and see what happens. (i'd only invite an additional 10 people- that's enough to offset the kids i think....thereabout.)
my head is just about spinning and i know someone will eventually tell me not to worry about it, but the fact remains that i intended on trying to feed the kids too if i was able to muster it....and i am....
OH and one thing i'm annoyed with is the issue my mom's brought up on several occassions. i love this question, "okay, so how many people can i invite?" wtf? i didn't even know my mom HAD any friends let alone any that she'd think i'd want to invite!!!! should i feel guilty about telling her she's a retard? okay, so i didn't tell her that but i did say no way. why should i invite someone to my wedding that i don't even know? my mom goes from job to job all the time. i've never known any of her friends and she's never brought them around. she's totally antisocial and suddenly she wants to bring people to my wedding??? i don't get it. and i know it sucks but i wasn't exactly nice about saying no either. the first time she asked she was drunk so i took it as one of her usual brain farts, but the other day she was relatively sober (and i do use the term loosly) and realized that she was really serious.
i know she told me not to worry about it and that she didn't care one way or the other if she invited her friends, but am i crazy for not giving her a few slots? i'm really upset about this actually. i think more than i realized cause my stomach is hurting. who knew she had friends? SHE'S NEVER INVITED ANYONE TO ANYTHING.....I SWEAR!!!!! why suddenly this? OMG.....i just figured it out. i'm such an asshole. my mom's all about making impressions....at least she used to be. this is just one of those old things resurfacing. she wants to ...apantayar (if i spelled that right) or impress. these are people that she works in a warehouse with and she wants them to see how pretty and elegant she can be. i think i just put my finger on it. well.....i think i'll tell her to take them the pictures! lmao!!!!
i'm such a mean daughter!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 9/19/2005 5:19 PM
Well, Michelle..you need to look at it this way...This is your wedding! You do what makes you happy. But that is your mom..hahaha But i wish we could be your list too!! But i am so happy for you!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/20/2005 9:40 AM
maybe if my mom acted more like a real adult instead of a martyr i'd be more than happy to include the friends i didnt know she had. lol i can't wait for the wedding. i'm sure my mom's going to make it interesting.
did i ever tell you guys the story of the time she started falling down all over the reception hall at my quincianera? she threw a big ass party for loads of people. i honestly dont know how the poor woman did it, but she did. i don't think she truly got to enjoy the fruits of her labor though because she got so wasted at the party that she kept fainting. apparetnly her girdle was too tight. to be quite honest i think she simply worked too hard and by the time it came down to the party she was so overwhelmed and unable to breath that the drinking really knocked her on her ass. several times.
she was fine after taking it off, but she scared all her sisters and made quite the scene. ah well....such is life. this time she won't be able to throw on a tiny ass corset. her belly would bust right through it! lol i'm so mean!!!! i love my mommie, but i really like to make fun of her too. besides, i know most people have mommies just like mine. they mean well, and they try hard, but there's just something there that they don't quite get anymore. i can't for the life of me figure out why. i wonder if it'll be the same for me when i have grown up children?
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/20/2005 10:44 AM
Ahhhhh!!!jajajajiiii!!. Ahy Michelle! I don't rember my tia passing-out at your Quinseanera......Probably, because my mom wasn't there....and I was too busy having a good time....I think it was my first party as a teenager without my mom...I just remember that I dance all night long, with God knows who??
oh! and don't be too rude with your mommie, she just wants to show-off how prety her dauther is going to look at her "big day"......
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/21/2005 8:43 AM
i know. that's why i feel so guilty about it! it's horrible being me. i don't know how i've escaped having an ulcer. i swear that when my eyeball is twitching from the stress i can feel one growing on my stomach....*eye twitch*
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 5:02 AM
What's the worst that could happen your mom gets a lil tipsy with her friends and makes you dance with her a bit? Just remember to firmly say no if she wants to do it on chairs or tables keep it on the dance floor besides it's easier for your family to record the big fall so they can win 5,000 on funniest home videos. Course it would be funnier if Marvin Gaye's sexual healing was playing and she started grinding on nathan now that would be funny to watch him squirm
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 10:54 AM
phff....you wish that was the worst that could happen. i think the worst that could happen is that she'd get so drunk that she'll start falling all over the place and pee on herself. lol course she's never EVER done something like that. lol that's just the worse thing that could happen i think. omg.....
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:49 PM
one word comes to mind "DEPENDS" the adult diaper
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:50 PM
Besides make a deal tell her she can invite a few freinds if she promises to behave. But tell her in a nice way
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:09 AM
i'll be honest. i'm thinking about it. i mean you never get a 100% turnout at a party so i may as well give my mom a few extras. i'm so mean! ok....i'm going to ponder on this some more. lol
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/19/2005 11:18 AM
i've been so busy at home and at work that i'm about to crack up. they've just given me a temp to work with for a few hours today and all that did was slow me down for the rest of the day. now i feel like i haven't gotten anything done today and like i'm not going to either.
i've gotten loads of things done in preperation for the wedding too, but i still have quite a lot to buy. my check list is almost complete though. and i'm trying to finish off my guest list as well. i've filled up all the chairs by including the children.
had a conversation with my friend the other day and she told me that in the weddings she's been to people will customarily pay for an adult dinner so the kids will have a seat. i redid my list to include the kids that i already have on my list and if i don't invite anyone else i have a total of 76 on it. not including kids under 10 for an adult meal though...there's my nephew, my cuz' kid and a couple of other kids under 10.
i think that leaves me with a few options.:
i can order pizza or finger foods for the kids under 10 (i know i've discussed this with all of you already but i can't help feeling overwhelmingly guilty about making people feed their kids before coming to the reception or gettnig them something there themselves). maybe even get them a table where food will be served specifically for them. (i have to discuss that option with geezers)
if i do the above i can either leave the list as is and only invite those currently on it
OR i can invite over the current guest list and see what happens. (i'd only invite an additional 10 people- that's enough to offset the kids i think....thereabout.)
my head is just about spinning and i know someone will eventually tell me not to worry about it, but the fact remains that i intended on trying to feed the kids too if i was able to muster it....and i am....
OH and one thing i'm annoyed with is the issue my mom's brought up on several occassions. i love this question, "okay, so how many people can i invite?" wtf? i didn't even know my mom HAD any friends let alone any that she'd think i'd want to invite!!!! should i feel guilty about telling her she's a retard? okay, so i didn't tell her that but i did say no way. why should i invite someone to my wedding that i don't even know? my mom goes from job to job all the time. i've never known any of her friends and she's never brought them around. she's totally antisocial and suddenly she wants to bring people to my wedding??? i don't get it. and i know it sucks but i wasn't exactly nice about saying no either. the first time she asked she was drunk so i took it as one of her usual brain farts, but the other day she was relatively sober (and i do use the term loosly) and realized that she was really serious.
i know she told me not to worry about it and that she didn't care one way or the other if she invited her friends, but am i crazy for not giving her a few slots? i'm really upset about this actually. i think more than i realized cause my stomach is hurting. who knew she had friends? SHE'S NEVER INVITED ANYONE TO ANYTHING.....I SWEAR!!!!! why suddenly this? OMG.....i just figured it out. i'm such an asshole. my mom's all about making impressions....at least she used to be. this is just one of those old things resurfacing. she wants to ...apantayar (if i spelled that right) or impress. these are people that she works in a warehouse with and she wants them to see how pretty and elegant she can be. i think i just put my finger on it. well.....i think i'll tell her to take them the pictures! lmao!!!!
i'm such a mean daughter!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 9/19/2005 5:19 PM
Well, Michelle..you need to look at it this way...This is your wedding! You do what makes you happy. But that is your mom..hahaha But i wish we could be your list too!! But i am so happy for you!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/20/2005 9:40 AM
maybe if my mom acted more like a real adult instead of a martyr i'd be more than happy to include the friends i didnt know she had. lol i can't wait for the wedding. i'm sure my mom's going to make it interesting.
did i ever tell you guys the story of the time she started falling down all over the reception hall at my quincianera? she threw a big ass party for loads of people. i honestly dont know how the poor woman did it, but she did. i don't think she truly got to enjoy the fruits of her labor though because she got so wasted at the party that she kept fainting. apparetnly her girdle was too tight. to be quite honest i think she simply worked too hard and by the time it came down to the party she was so overwhelmed and unable to breath that the drinking really knocked her on her ass. several times.
she was fine after taking it off, but she scared all her sisters and made quite the scene. ah well....such is life. this time she won't be able to throw on a tiny ass corset. her belly would bust right through it! lol i'm so mean!!!! i love my mommie, but i really like to make fun of her too. besides, i know most people have mommies just like mine. they mean well, and they try hard, but there's just something there that they don't quite get anymore. i can't for the life of me figure out why. i wonder if it'll be the same for me when i have grown up children?
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/20/2005 10:44 AM
Ahhhhh!!!jajajajiiii!!. Ahy Michelle! I don't rember my tia passing-out at your Quinseanera......Probably, because my mom wasn't there....and I was too busy having a good time....I think it was my first party as a teenager without my mom...I just remember that I dance all night long, with God knows who??
oh! and don't be too rude with your mommie, she just wants to show-off how prety her dauther is going to look at her "big day"......
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/21/2005 8:43 AM
i know. that's why i feel so guilty about it! it's horrible being me. i don't know how i've escaped having an ulcer. i swear that when my eyeball is twitching from the stress i can feel one growing on my stomach....*eye twitch*
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 5:02 AM
What's the worst that could happen your mom gets a lil tipsy with her friends and makes you dance with her a bit? Just remember to firmly say no if she wants to do it on chairs or tables keep it on the dance floor besides it's easier for your family to record the big fall so they can win 5,000 on funniest home videos. Course it would be funnier if Marvin Gaye's sexual healing was playing and she started grinding on nathan now that would be funny to watch him squirm
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 10:54 AM
phff....you wish that was the worst that could happen. i think the worst that could happen is that she'd get so drunk that she'll start falling all over the place and pee on herself. lol course she's never EVER done something like that. lol that's just the worse thing that could happen i think. omg.....
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:49 PM
one word comes to mind "DEPENDS" the adult diaper
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:50 PM
Besides make a deal tell her she can invite a few freinds if she promises to behave. But tell her in a nice way
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:09 AM
i'll be honest. i'm thinking about it. i mean you never get a 100% turnout at a party so i may as well give my mom a few extras. i'm so mean! ok....i'm going to ponder on this some more. lol
Guest List Conundrum
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/19/2005 11:18 AM
i've been so busy at home and at work that i'm about to crack up. they've just given me a temp to work with for a few hours today and all that did was slow me down for the rest of the day. now i feel like i haven't gotten anything done today and like i'm not going to either.
i've gotten loads of things done in preperation for the wedding too, but i still have quite a lot to buy. my check list is almost complete though. and i'm trying to finish off my guest list as well. i've filled up all the chairs by including the children.
had a conversation with my friend the other day and she told me that in the weddings she's been to people will customarily pay for an adult dinner so the kids will have a seat. i redid my list to include the kids that i already have on my list and if i don't invite anyone else i have a total of 76 on it. not including kids under 10 for an adult meal though...there's my nephew, my cuz' kid and a couple of other kids under 10.
i think that leaves me with a few options.:
i can order pizza or finger foods for the kids under 10 (i know i've discussed this with all of you already but i can't help feeling overwhelmingly guilty about making people feed their kids before coming to the reception or gettnig them something there themselves). maybe even get them a table where food will be served specifically for them. (i have to discuss that option with geezers)
if i do the above i can either leave the list as is and only invite those currently on it
OR i can invite over the current guest list and see what happens. (i'd only invite an additional 10 people- that's enough to offset the kids i think....thereabout.)
my head is just about spinning and i know someone will eventually tell me not to worry about it, but the fact remains that i intended on trying to feed the kids too if i was able to muster it....and i am....
OH and one thing i'm annoyed with is the issue my mom's brought up on several occassions. i love this question, "okay, so how many people can i invite?" wtf? i didn't even know my mom HAD any friends let alone any that she'd think i'd want to invite!!!! should i feel guilty about telling her she's a retard? okay, so i didn't tell her that but i did say no way. why should i invite someone to my wedding that i don't even know? my mom goes from job to job all the time. i've never known any of her friends and she's never brought them around. she's totally antisocial and suddenly she wants to bring people to my wedding??? i don't get it. and i know it sucks but i wasn't exactly nice about saying no either. the first time she asked she was drunk so i took it as one of her usual brain farts, but the other day she was relatively sober (and i do use the term loosly) and realized that she was really serious.
i know she told me not to worry about it and that she didn't care one way or the other if she invited her friends, but am i crazy for not giving her a few slots? i'm really upset about this actually. i think more than i realized cause my stomach is hurting. who knew she had friends? SHE'S NEVER INVITED ANYONE TO ANYTHING.....I SWEAR!!!!! why suddenly this? OMG.....i just figured it out. i'm such an asshole. my mom's all about making impressions....at least she used to be. this is just one of those old things resurfacing. she wants to ...apantayar (if i spelled that right) or impress. these are people that she works in a warehouse with and she wants them to see how pretty and elegant she can be. i think i just put my finger on it. well.....i think i'll tell her to take them the pictures! lmao!!!!
i'm such a mean daughter!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 9/19/2005 5:19 PM
Well, Michelle..you need to look at it this way...This is your wedding! You do what makes you happy. But that is your mom..hahaha But i wish we could be your list too!! But i am so happy for you!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/20/2005 9:40 AM
maybe if my mom acted more like a real adult instead of a martyr i'd be more than happy to include the friends i didnt know she had. lol i can't wait for the wedding. i'm sure my mom's going to make it interesting.
did i ever tell you guys the story of the time she started falling down all over the reception hall at my quincianera? she threw a big ass party for loads of people. i honestly dont know how the poor woman did it, but she did. i don't think she truly got to enjoy the fruits of her labor though because she got so wasted at the party that she kept fainting. apparetnly her girdle was too tight. to be quite honest i think she simply worked too hard and by the time it came down to the party she was so overwhelmed and unable to breath that the drinking really knocked her on her ass. several times.
she was fine after taking it off, but she scared all her sisters and made quite the scene. ah well....such is life. this time she won't be able to throw on a tiny ass corset. her belly would bust right through it! lol i'm so mean!!!! i love my mommie, but i really like to make fun of her too. besides, i know most people have mommies just like mine. they mean well, and they try hard, but there's just something there that they don't quite get anymore. i can't for the life of me figure out why. i wonder if it'll be the same for me when i have grown up children?
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/20/2005 10:44 AM
Ahhhhh!!!jajajajiiii!!. Ahy Michelle! I don't rember my tia passing-out at your Quinseanera......Probably, because my mom wasn't there....and I was too busy having a good time....I think it was my first party as a teenager without my mom...I just remember that I dance all night long, with God knows who??
oh! and don't be too rude with your mommie, she just wants to show-off how prety her dauther is going to look at her "big day"......
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/21/2005 8:43 AM
i know. that's why i feel so guilty about it! it's horrible being me. i don't know how i've escaped having an ulcer. i swear that when my eyeball is twitching from the stress i can feel one growing on my stomach....*eye twitch*
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 5:02 AM
What's the worst that could happen your mom gets a lil tipsy with her friends and makes you dance with her a bit? Just remember to firmly say no if she wants to do it on chairs or tables keep it on the dance floor besides it's easier for your family to record the big fall so they can win 5,000 on funniest home videos. Course it would be funnier if Marvin Gaye's sexual healing was playing and she started grinding on nathan now that would be funny to watch him squirm
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 10:54 AM
phff....you wish that was the worst that could happen. i think the worst that could happen is that she'd get so drunk that she'll start falling all over the place and pee on herself. lol course she's never EVER done something like that. lol that's just the worse thing that could happen i think. omg.....
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:49 PM
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Besides make a deal tell her she can invite a few freinds if she promises to behave. But tell her in a nice way
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:09 AM
i'll be honest. i'm thinking about it. i mean you never get a 100% turnout at a party so i may as well give my mom a few extras. i'm so mean! ok....i'm going to ponder on this some more. lol
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/19/2005 11:18 AM
i've been so busy at home and at work that i'm about to crack up. they've just given me a temp to work with for a few hours today and all that did was slow me down for the rest of the day. now i feel like i haven't gotten anything done today and like i'm not going to either.
i've gotten loads of things done in preperation for the wedding too, but i still have quite a lot to buy. my check list is almost complete though. and i'm trying to finish off my guest list as well. i've filled up all the chairs by including the children.
had a conversation with my friend the other day and she told me that in the weddings she's been to people will customarily pay for an adult dinner so the kids will have a seat. i redid my list to include the kids that i already have on my list and if i don't invite anyone else i have a total of 76 on it. not including kids under 10 for an adult meal though...there's my nephew, my cuz' kid and a couple of other kids under 10.
i think that leaves me with a few options.:
i can order pizza or finger foods for the kids under 10 (i know i've discussed this with all of you already but i can't help feeling overwhelmingly guilty about making people feed their kids before coming to the reception or gettnig them something there themselves). maybe even get them a table where food will be served specifically for them. (i have to discuss that option with geezers)
if i do the above i can either leave the list as is and only invite those currently on it
OR i can invite over the current guest list and see what happens. (i'd only invite an additional 10 people- that's enough to offset the kids i think....thereabout.)
my head is just about spinning and i know someone will eventually tell me not to worry about it, but the fact remains that i intended on trying to feed the kids too if i was able to muster it....and i am....
OH and one thing i'm annoyed with is the issue my mom's brought up on several occassions. i love this question, "okay, so how many people can i invite?" wtf? i didn't even know my mom HAD any friends let alone any that she'd think i'd want to invite!!!! should i feel guilty about telling her she's a retard? okay, so i didn't tell her that but i did say no way. why should i invite someone to my wedding that i don't even know? my mom goes from job to job all the time. i've never known any of her friends and she's never brought them around. she's totally antisocial and suddenly she wants to bring people to my wedding??? i don't get it. and i know it sucks but i wasn't exactly nice about saying no either. the first time she asked she was drunk so i took it as one of her usual brain farts, but the other day she was relatively sober (and i do use the term loosly) and realized that she was really serious.
i know she told me not to worry about it and that she didn't care one way or the other if she invited her friends, but am i crazy for not giving her a few slots? i'm really upset about this actually. i think more than i realized cause my stomach is hurting. who knew she had friends? SHE'S NEVER INVITED ANYONE TO ANYTHING.....I SWEAR!!!!! why suddenly this? OMG.....i just figured it out. i'm such an asshole. my mom's all about making impressions....at least she used to be. this is just one of those old things resurfacing. she wants to ...apantayar (if i spelled that right) or impress. these are people that she works in a warehouse with and she wants them to see how pretty and elegant she can be. i think i just put my finger on it. well.....i think i'll tell her to take them the pictures! lmao!!!!
i'm such a mean daughter!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 9/19/2005 5:19 PM
Well, Michelle..you need to look at it this way...This is your wedding! You do what makes you happy. But that is your mom..hahaha But i wish we could be your list too!! But i am so happy for you!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/20/2005 9:40 AM
maybe if my mom acted more like a real adult instead of a martyr i'd be more than happy to include the friends i didnt know she had. lol i can't wait for the wedding. i'm sure my mom's going to make it interesting.
did i ever tell you guys the story of the time she started falling down all over the reception hall at my quincianera? she threw a big ass party for loads of people. i honestly dont know how the poor woman did it, but she did. i don't think she truly got to enjoy the fruits of her labor though because she got so wasted at the party that she kept fainting. apparetnly her girdle was too tight. to be quite honest i think she simply worked too hard and by the time it came down to the party she was so overwhelmed and unable to breath that the drinking really knocked her on her ass. several times.
she was fine after taking it off, but she scared all her sisters and made quite the scene. ah well....such is life. this time she won't be able to throw on a tiny ass corset. her belly would bust right through it! lol i'm so mean!!!! i love my mommie, but i really like to make fun of her too. besides, i know most people have mommies just like mine. they mean well, and they try hard, but there's just something there that they don't quite get anymore. i can't for the life of me figure out why. i wonder if it'll be the same for me when i have grown up children?
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/20/2005 10:44 AM
Ahhhhh!!!jajajajiiii!!. Ahy Michelle! I don't rember my tia passing-out at your Quinseanera......Probably, because my mom wasn't there....and I was too busy having a good time....I think it was my first party as a teenager without my mom...I just remember that I dance all night long, with God knows who??
oh! and don't be too rude with your mommie, she just wants to show-off how prety her dauther is going to look at her "big day"......
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/21/2005 8:43 AM
i know. that's why i feel so guilty about it! it's horrible being me. i don't know how i've escaped having an ulcer. i swear that when my eyeball is twitching from the stress i can feel one growing on my stomach....*eye twitch*
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 5:02 AM
What's the worst that could happen your mom gets a lil tipsy with her friends and makes you dance with her a bit? Just remember to firmly say no if she wants to do it on chairs or tables keep it on the dance floor besides it's easier for your family to record the big fall so they can win 5,000 on funniest home videos. Course it would be funnier if Marvin Gaye's sexual healing was playing and she started grinding on nathan now that would be funny to watch him squirm
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 10:54 AM
phff....you wish that was the worst that could happen. i think the worst that could happen is that she'd get so drunk that she'll start falling all over the place and pee on herself. lol course she's never EVER done something like that. lol that's just the worse thing that could happen i think. omg.....
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:09 AM
i'll be honest. i'm thinking about it. i mean you never get a 100% turnout at a party so i may as well give my mom a few extras. i'm so mean! ok....i'm going to ponder on this some more. lol
Salsa Dance Lessons
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From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 8/17/2005 12:16 PM
well, i started this thread a little late. i've already had two dance lessons and my third one is tonight. i can't even say that i've really enjoyed these lessons. it's definately not the same as ballroom dance. not only because it's a completely different style, but because i hardly get to dance with rigid. i spend most of my time dancing with other men.
if i could count the number of times these guys have accidentally touched my boob i think i'd be pissed. and not only do i have to deal with the fact that rigid steps all over my feet one minute and the next is solid as a rock, i have to deal with all the other human turds out there. what's funny is that there is only one man that makes me truly look good. i mean everyone else is stumbling over their feet, catching my hairclip, bumping into me or making me feel like i'm squeezing my head through a rubber tube when i'm doing an underarm turn. it's horrible, but this man...omg this man. he's so light on his feet. he helps me do my own dance steps so i don't find it easy to mess up. keeps me calm and relaxed so i can turn with ease and get back into step with him right away....like an elastic rubberband snaping back into place.
*sigh* but he's old. old as dirt. lmao! he's a very nice man though and always complements me about my dancing. you know...i thought i wouldn't have much trouble since i dance to cumbias and salsa all the time, but dancing like that is really hard. i mean, if your able to keep your limbs in close proximity of your body and you learn the simple steps then you can look really nice...just with that basic knowledge, but if you shake your ass too much, keep your feet to far apart or let your arms dangle around like red vines (you know the licorice stuff) you'll look like such an ass....and it's so easy to look like such an ass!!!!! omg.
and another complaint i have is that rigid doesn't stop telling me how much he really dislikes that class and how he definately doesn't want to take salsa 2. and that he's not going to dance that way with me at the wedding. i'm so mad!!! he hasn't even tried. i realized last week that we hadn't practiced at all so after our 2nd lesson i asked if we could dance. of course after class his back hurts and he didn't want to. all i asked was for 15 min....you'd think that he could have held up just a bit longer, but NO. so i threw a temper tantrum which consisted of lots of pouting and fake crying...i even threw myself on the bed all dramatic like. but he ended up turning into such an ass that it turned into a real fight because he misunderstood what i really wanted.
and boy was that a real fight. it was HORRIBLE. is that dramatic enough? HO-RRI-BUUUUL.... he took it way too seriously. call them growing pains if you will...he's a butthole, but he's not getting out of the dance classes.
so he just called me a few minutes ago to remind me that we have dance class. i let him know that i wanted to practice a little before we went and he said okay. HE BETTER! hmphf!!! so there *raspberries*
hopefully tonights class is a bit better. i actually had a bit of a hard time with one of the turns there for a bit. think i'll wear different shoes this time. ones that won't make me feel like i'm about to fall on my face. crappers. preparing for a wedding is a lot of hard work already...why'd i have to make it even harder on myself. guess i should think about it as a nice and relaxing thing to do, but in times like this.....i'm not so sure it's not causing the stress instead of relieveing it. *sigh*
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 8:40 AM
well last nights class was really nice. i mean were both sick. we didn't practice when we got home because we were too tired. nate had been out on the street all day getting the car fixed and i spent the day updating accounts. boring stuff, but i was tired and so was he. not to mention the fact that we stopped at downtown to look for stuff.
i swore i wouldn't take rigid shopping with me anymore but i had some places i wanted to check out. i ended up picking up a base for my unity candles. granted it's painted in bronze and black to make it look antiqued, but it's heavy and really nice and i cant WAIT to do it in silver. it was only about 7.50. i also go some candles that i could decorate myself. the total was 14 bucks. not bad considering some of the unity candles out there can cost anywhere from 20-200 ddls. crap on that!
anyhow, back to dance. we were sick so on the way up there i told rigid that we'd let the teacher know we were ill so we could dance by ourselves. that was the best idea i had because we enjoyed ourselves so much and rigid, even though he kept complaining that he was sick, did much better this time. i guess because he was too sick to horse around and had to concentrate a lot more. i kept getting really dizzy during the turns and thought i'd throw up a few times, but i was fine.
we learned yet another dance step and although i kept smashing into rigid each time i had a really great time. he was stepping all over my feet and smooshing the sides of my toes with his frankenstein shoes (200 pounds my arse!) but he was making me laugh cause he kept thrusting he crotch into me....you had to be there. something about john travolta and saturday night fever. lol by the last 15 min of the class we were doing all the dance steps we've learned so far together and it was really nice. course the teacher had to take rigid to the side and risk getting sick herself but she couldn't see me suffer anymore. once she straightened him out on the new steps we were just fine. this time i wore really casual clothes and my comfy chuck taylors so i was dancing around with no problem. i think i'll wear those the rest of the time. my dirty ass-neverbeenwashed converse....i think i threw some spit on them once. ahhh, they're the best shoes ever!
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 8/18/2005 1:49 PM
hey hey hey. she accused me of flirting last week.
i wasn't but she still insisted i did.
last night was fun but we both felt like shit
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 3:53 PM
naha!!! you totally were flirting. (ahem, i forgot about that part too....) i saw you laughing and giggling with that skinny little white girl! i'll tear her fucking eyes out i tell you!!!!!!! ho bag!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/23/2005 7:20 PM
Oh my god..you two ae to much!!!!
Nathan..listen if your women says you were flirting most likely you were and did not realize it!!! And if a guy is looking at another girl then you were.
You know what Vi does that all the time and when i tell him "I can take a picture it will last longer" he gets bent all of of shape and tells me.. "i was not looking at nothing" I think men think us women are stupid...lololol...lmao...
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/24/2005 7:34 AM
i swear to GOD i think your right. i mean so far rigid hasn't done that to me (at least i haven't caught him) but i won't be surprised when i do. i don't actually have much of a problem with it to be honest, but his reaction was what surprised me.
the fact that he didn't just blow me off and tell me i was crazy. NO he had to get all huffy and yell at me that he was getting upset because he had no idea what i was talking about. hpmf...if i was wrong then why'd he get so defensive? ooooh, moded! lmao!!!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/26/2005 1:07 PM
this weeks salsa class was AWFUL!!! our teacher wasn't in! i'm SURE i made her sick! :( ...i hadn't even thought about that till now. aaaaw!
all because rigid is a clumsy oaf and she got tired of seeing me smash into him all the time. :(
well, we got to class and this man was teaching. right there everyone was off because...well, we all know really real men can't dance so. phff, there you go. you can just imagine how the rest of the class went. rigid was so stuck on the fact that he couldn't learn from this person because it's not his teacher that the entire time i was stuck there i just wanted to kick him in the crotch!!!
i smooshed, smashed and banged into rigid the ENTIRE night!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't see how there's any possible way for us to get to dance to a whole song at this point. we've never even practived like we did with the ballroom dance classes. and he's SO against Salsa Dance 2! and i REALLY want to take it! :( maybe after the wedding cause i'd rather practiCe the ballroom stuff...especially cause rigid has so much more fun with that.
anyhow, that class was a disaster. i actually ended up hurting my hip, knee and ankle on the left side. that was the side that i kept smashing into rigid because he just refused to move out of the way or because he'd yank my arm wrong in the turn and put me off balance. seriously dangerous stuff. it doesn't help at all that his feet are just massive! LOL well, maybe we'll do better next time.
i believe it's our last one too! i feel SO ripped off. i've never actually left a class without mastering a new step! so dissapointing! to rigids credit though that teacher was exceptionally horrid. the salsa was tooooooooo fast and his teaching style was very sink or swimish. not a fun way to learn. :(
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/14/2005 9:39 AM
well, i'll only go over this very quickly because i have to get back to work at some point, but our last class was very nice.
granted the smashing and bumping didn't stop but it did ease up. it's obvious that rigid wouldn't possibly take salsa 2. we'd have to take salsa 1 all over again to get the basics down. i realized in this last class that it wasn't me that was making all the mistakes. it looked like what was happening was that rigid was completely freezing up during certain moves and letting me have at it on my own.
in other words men lead....he wasn't leading. especially during the difficult turns or moves because he's let me go and let me either walk and turn on my own which left me off balance each and every time. how did i figure this out? some of the other men in class were really great dancers...in fact i couldn't figure out why in the world they would be taking salsa 1. it was strange, but these 3 guys had me gliding around on the dance floor with no problem. the hardest turns and moves were a big indication that i had things down pat. it sucked that every time i got back to rigid it all seemed to fall apart.
boy....when he doesn't want to do something there's just no motivating him. too bad cause those classes aren't cheap.
well at least i feel well prepared enough to dance with anyone on my wedding day. and rigid...i think ....well....LOL i think we'll be okay on the first dance. even if he doesn't twirl me around the dance floor like a top. at least he can move me around back and forth without stepping on my toes and give me a little whirl here and there. he may even finally figure out how to dip me...course, i'd rather not fall. lol
so that was the very last dance class of the year. i remember rigid telling my teacher that he wants to go all the way with ballroom.......hmmm....i wonder how many things he says just to try to impress me? lmao!
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:49 AM
Hmmph me look at other women phshaw I don't know what the hell that woman is talking about usually I have to politely tell the women I am happily married and not interested in them but thank you for your interest. then there is a lot of crying and begging but I have grown strong over the years and have learneds to yank my leg from there tightly clutched hands while reassuring them that there lives will go on.........Lol yeah right let me tell you about my lovely angel of a wife who I have caught lookin at young pretty boys or how she practically has a big Ohhhh every time she se's a pic of Brad Pitt. She's even gone as far to oogle other dad's at cheerleading cause they look like Tim Mcgraw she said. My Ass tim mcgraw on crack maybe but whatever I believe if your gonna show it and I like it im gonna look that dont mean I wanna leave my wife it's just a mans way to window shop! LOL I should go get fitted for my rubber pig snout now!
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:55 AM
BTW ridgid you better start doing the salsa with maha before one of those dogs who keep bumpin her boobs do! I mean godamn she wants to put them things all over ya and your back hurts let me tell ya I could get hit by a car and be in a backbrace but when the girls come out to play im like a crippled on benny hinn she lays them on me and Praise Me Jesus I'm Healed!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/11/2005 10:45 AM
LMFAO!!!!!!
vi your too much. anyway there's nothing wrong with a little window shopping....it's the vareity that's behind those windows that rigid has a problem with as far as i'm concerned....i can't help it if girls have nicer shoes than me!!!!! i say that so long as it's a little silly flirting it's ok....i mean with like brad pitt or something. angelina jolie...whatever you know. but i so much as see a girl giggle way to much with rigid and i want to sit her ass down. all they say is, "oh my gawd i like totally love his accent. isn't it cute jenny? OH MY GAWD!!!" *giggle giggle giggle* then my imaginary fist goes straight through their teeth. hmph.
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:53 AM
Wow now im rotfl cause Lisa is Like a pit bull if any girl tries to flirt with me and if I dont grab her quick enough it's all springer show like with panties showing hair pulling and face scratching which Im totally into but you have to think of the girls besides I wanna watch that kinda stuff at home on my couch with a video camera rolling. Lol. Course Im no better I caught some biker eyeing her up one day at a traffic light so I stuck my middle finger up and started cursing at him which got him to stop looking but put me in the doghouse cause the girls where in the backseat lisa's all real smooth get in a fistfight and get locked up how you gonna explain that to the girls .........well sweety daddy has to go with the police because he's a loudmouthed jackass
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 11:37 AM
dude, that's funny. you should have seen rigid in the movie theater the other day. and so far each time we go there's some incident of sorts but this was the worst. there we were watching wallace and gromet when halfway through it this mans phone rings nice and loud. so i looked over nate (the man was sitting two seats from nathan) and made a face at the man. rigid of course says "SSHHHHH" when the man got on the phone and started talking to his friend. thing is he wasn't even trying to be quiet. he was talknig as though he was outside which freaked me the hell out.
so rigid being the nice english gentleman that he is told him to please turn his phone off and shut the fuck up. the man half looked at him and ignored him to continue his riveting conversation. so i mutter "asshole" under my breath and rigid say's " turn your fucking phone off now or i'll turn it off for you you fucking cunt!. turn it off now or i'll give you a fucking slap." all the while pointing his finger at him very accusingly. i swear i saw rigid turn purple in front of my face. but when i saw this mans little girl sitting on his lap i put my hand on his chest and told him to settle down.
the man finally gets off the phone and asked nathan why he talked to him that way (it was a pretty bad accent) and can't he be nicer about the way he asked him to get off the phone and gestured to his daughter. so i shushed the man and told him to be quiet in spanish and no one said a peep after that. course rigid wouldn't stop muttering fucking cunt under his breath.....eventually i was able to settle in and watch the movie.
but something kept bugging me. the little girls face. so after things settled down a little bit i let nathan know that the next time he decides to do something like that he better make sure that there are no children around. he said he didn't care that the cunt deserved it .........ask him again if he still doesn't care. :)
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:47 PM
Man that was so frekin funny I can just imagine ridgid ready to kick that guy's ass in the theatre kid or no kid that was pretty effin ignorant to take a call like that in the movie.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:17 AM
it was really stupid. how can you think it's okay to take a call and speak as you normally would. retard man.
a few weeks ago we went to go see the exorcism of emily rose. now that movie is all dialogue. the cut scenes to the past were the only ones where there were loud noises. the whole thing was in a courtroom for gods sakes so you can just imagine how quiet the whole thing was. especially since there was no music in the background.
i don't know what got into my friend that day, but he decided to go way up to the top to sit. well, you know that's where all the kids hang out and screw around. and sure enough we were stuck around a shitload of teenagers who were busy laughing and giggling and yapping away. it was so annoying.
rigid turned around and talked shit to some of the kids and they kind of shut up, but of course it didn't really stop them. i already had my hand on him so he kept a little calm, but we eventually moved way closer to the screen. didn't really matter though. to be honest the movie was so quiet that you could hear a pin drop in the theater. people kept getting up for breaks or just to leave the theater. that was a really hard movie for people to watch. a little too cerebral for some people there.....i guess since they pushed it as a horror flick people weren't expecting dialogue. lol
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 8/17/2005 12:16 PM
well, i started this thread a little late. i've already had two dance lessons and my third one is tonight. i can't even say that i've really enjoyed these lessons. it's definately not the same as ballroom dance. not only because it's a completely different style, but because i hardly get to dance with rigid. i spend most of my time dancing with other men.
if i could count the number of times these guys have accidentally touched my boob i think i'd be pissed. and not only do i have to deal with the fact that rigid steps all over my feet one minute and the next is solid as a rock, i have to deal with all the other human turds out there. what's funny is that there is only one man that makes me truly look good. i mean everyone else is stumbling over their feet, catching my hairclip, bumping into me or making me feel like i'm squeezing my head through a rubber tube when i'm doing an underarm turn. it's horrible, but this man...omg this man. he's so light on his feet. he helps me do my own dance steps so i don't find it easy to mess up. keeps me calm and relaxed so i can turn with ease and get back into step with him right away....like an elastic rubberband snaping back into place.
*sigh* but he's old. old as dirt. lmao! he's a very nice man though and always complements me about my dancing. you know...i thought i wouldn't have much trouble since i dance to cumbias and salsa all the time, but dancing like that is really hard. i mean, if your able to keep your limbs in close proximity of your body and you learn the simple steps then you can look really nice...just with that basic knowledge, but if you shake your ass too much, keep your feet to far apart or let your arms dangle around like red vines (you know the licorice stuff) you'll look like such an ass....and it's so easy to look like such an ass!!!!! omg.
and another complaint i have is that rigid doesn't stop telling me how much he really dislikes that class and how he definately doesn't want to take salsa 2. and that he's not going to dance that way with me at the wedding. i'm so mad!!! he hasn't even tried. i realized last week that we hadn't practiced at all so after our 2nd lesson i asked if we could dance. of course after class his back hurts and he didn't want to. all i asked was for 15 min....you'd think that he could have held up just a bit longer, but NO. so i threw a temper tantrum which consisted of lots of pouting and fake crying...i even threw myself on the bed all dramatic like. but he ended up turning into such an ass that it turned into a real fight because he misunderstood what i really wanted.
and boy was that a real fight. it was HORRIBLE. is that dramatic enough? HO-RRI-BUUUUL.... he took it way too seriously. call them growing pains if you will...he's a butthole, but he's not getting out of the dance classes.
so he just called me a few minutes ago to remind me that we have dance class. i let him know that i wanted to practice a little before we went and he said okay. HE BETTER! hmphf!!! so there *raspberries*
hopefully tonights class is a bit better. i actually had a bit of a hard time with one of the turns there for a bit. think i'll wear different shoes this time. ones that won't make me feel like i'm about to fall on my face. crappers. preparing for a wedding is a lot of hard work already...why'd i have to make it even harder on myself. guess i should think about it as a nice and relaxing thing to do, but in times like this.....i'm not so sure it's not causing the stress instead of relieveing it. *sigh*
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 8:40 AM
well last nights class was really nice. i mean were both sick. we didn't practice when we got home because we were too tired. nate had been out on the street all day getting the car fixed and i spent the day updating accounts. boring stuff, but i was tired and so was he. not to mention the fact that we stopped at downtown to look for stuff.
i swore i wouldn't take rigid shopping with me anymore but i had some places i wanted to check out. i ended up picking up a base for my unity candles. granted it's painted in bronze and black to make it look antiqued, but it's heavy and really nice and i cant WAIT to do it in silver. it was only about 7.50. i also go some candles that i could decorate myself. the total was 14 bucks. not bad considering some of the unity candles out there can cost anywhere from 20-200 ddls. crap on that!
anyhow, back to dance. we were sick so on the way up there i told rigid that we'd let the teacher know we were ill so we could dance by ourselves. that was the best idea i had because we enjoyed ourselves so much and rigid, even though he kept complaining that he was sick, did much better this time. i guess because he was too sick to horse around and had to concentrate a lot more. i kept getting really dizzy during the turns and thought i'd throw up a few times, but i was fine.
we learned yet another dance step and although i kept smashing into rigid each time i had a really great time. he was stepping all over my feet and smooshing the sides of my toes with his frankenstein shoes (200 pounds my arse!) but he was making me laugh cause he kept thrusting he crotch into me....you had to be there. something about john travolta and saturday night fever. lol by the last 15 min of the class we were doing all the dance steps we've learned so far together and it was really nice. course the teacher had to take rigid to the side and risk getting sick herself but she couldn't see me suffer anymore. once she straightened him out on the new steps we were just fine. this time i wore really casual clothes and my comfy chuck taylors so i was dancing around with no problem. i think i'll wear those the rest of the time. my dirty ass-neverbeenwashed converse....i think i threw some spit on them once. ahhh, they're the best shoes ever!
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From: rigidraiderx Sent: 8/18/2005 1:49 PM
hey hey hey. she accused me of flirting last week.
i wasn't but she still insisted i did.
last night was fun but we both felt like shit
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/18/2005 3:53 PM
naha!!! you totally were flirting. (ahem, i forgot about that part too....) i saw you laughing and giggling with that skinny little white girl! i'll tear her fucking eyes out i tell you!!!!!!! ho bag!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 8/23/2005 7:20 PM
Oh my god..you two ae to much!!!!
Nathan..listen if your women says you were flirting most likely you were and did not realize it!!! And if a guy is looking at another girl then you were.
You know what Vi does that all the time and when i tell him "I can take a picture it will last longer" he gets bent all of of shape and tells me.. "i was not looking at nothing" I think men think us women are stupid...lololol...lmao...
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/24/2005 7:34 AM
i swear to GOD i think your right. i mean so far rigid hasn't done that to me (at least i haven't caught him) but i won't be surprised when i do. i don't actually have much of a problem with it to be honest, but his reaction was what surprised me.
the fact that he didn't just blow me off and tell me i was crazy. NO he had to get all huffy and yell at me that he was getting upset because he had no idea what i was talking about. hpmf...if i was wrong then why'd he get so defensive? ooooh, moded! lmao!!!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 8/26/2005 1:07 PM
this weeks salsa class was AWFUL!!! our teacher wasn't in! i'm SURE i made her sick! :( ...i hadn't even thought about that till now. aaaaw!
all because rigid is a clumsy oaf and she got tired of seeing me smash into him all the time. :(
well, we got to class and this man was teaching. right there everyone was off because...well, we all know really real men can't dance so. phff, there you go. you can just imagine how the rest of the class went. rigid was so stuck on the fact that he couldn't learn from this person because it's not his teacher that the entire time i was stuck there i just wanted to kick him in the crotch!!!
i smooshed, smashed and banged into rigid the ENTIRE night!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't see how there's any possible way for us to get to dance to a whole song at this point. we've never even practived like we did with the ballroom dance classes. and he's SO against Salsa Dance 2! and i REALLY want to take it! :( maybe after the wedding cause i'd rather practiCe the ballroom stuff...especially cause rigid has so much more fun with that.
anyhow, that class was a disaster. i actually ended up hurting my hip, knee and ankle on the left side. that was the side that i kept smashing into rigid because he just refused to move out of the way or because he'd yank my arm wrong in the turn and put me off balance. seriously dangerous stuff. it doesn't help at all that his feet are just massive! LOL well, maybe we'll do better next time.
i believe it's our last one too! i feel SO ripped off. i've never actually left a class without mastering a new step! so dissapointing! to rigids credit though that teacher was exceptionally horrid. the salsa was tooooooooo fast and his teaching style was very sink or swimish. not a fun way to learn. :(
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/14/2005 9:39 AM
well, i'll only go over this very quickly because i have to get back to work at some point, but our last class was very nice.
granted the smashing and bumping didn't stop but it did ease up. it's obvious that rigid wouldn't possibly take salsa 2. we'd have to take salsa 1 all over again to get the basics down. i realized in this last class that it wasn't me that was making all the mistakes. it looked like what was happening was that rigid was completely freezing up during certain moves and letting me have at it on my own.
in other words men lead....he wasn't leading. especially during the difficult turns or moves because he's let me go and let me either walk and turn on my own which left me off balance each and every time. how did i figure this out? some of the other men in class were really great dancers...in fact i couldn't figure out why in the world they would be taking salsa 1. it was strange, but these 3 guys had me gliding around on the dance floor with no problem. the hardest turns and moves were a big indication that i had things down pat. it sucked that every time i got back to rigid it all seemed to fall apart.
boy....when he doesn't want to do something there's just no motivating him. too bad cause those classes aren't cheap.
well at least i feel well prepared enough to dance with anyone on my wedding day. and rigid...i think ....well....LOL i think we'll be okay on the first dance. even if he doesn't twirl me around the dance floor like a top. at least he can move me around back and forth without stepping on my toes and give me a little whirl here and there. he may even finally figure out how to dip me...course, i'd rather not fall. lol
so that was the very last dance class of the year. i remember rigid telling my teacher that he wants to go all the way with ballroom.......hmmm....i wonder how many things he says just to try to impress me? lmao!
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:49 AM
Hmmph me look at other women phshaw I don't know what the hell that woman is talking about usually I have to politely tell the women I am happily married and not interested in them but thank you for your interest. then there is a lot of crying and begging but I have grown strong over the years and have learneds to yank my leg from there tightly clutched hands while reassuring them that there lives will go on.........Lol yeah right let me tell you about my lovely angel of a wife who I have caught lookin at young pretty boys or how she practically has a big Ohhhh every time she se's a pic of Brad Pitt. She's even gone as far to oogle other dad's at cheerleading cause they look like Tim Mcgraw she said. My Ass tim mcgraw on crack maybe but whatever I believe if your gonna show it and I like it im gonna look that dont mean I wanna leave my wife it's just a mans way to window shop! LOL I should go get fitted for my rubber pig snout now!
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/11/2005 9:55 AM
BTW ridgid you better start doing the salsa with maha before one of those dogs who keep bumpin her boobs do! I mean godamn she wants to put them things all over ya and your back hurts let me tell ya I could get hit by a car and be in a backbrace but when the girls come out to play im like a crippled on benny hinn she lays them on me and Praise Me Jesus I'm Healed!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/11/2005 10:45 AM
LMFAO!!!!!!
vi your too much. anyway there's nothing wrong with a little window shopping....it's the vareity that's behind those windows that rigid has a problem with as far as i'm concerned....i can't help it if girls have nicer shoes than me!!!!! i say that so long as it's a little silly flirting it's ok....i mean with like brad pitt or something. angelina jolie...whatever you know. but i so much as see a girl giggle way to much with rigid and i want to sit her ass down. all they say is, "oh my gawd i like totally love his accent. isn't it cute jenny? OH MY GAWD!!!" *giggle giggle giggle* then my imaginary fist goes straight through their teeth. hmph.
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:53 AM
Wow now im rotfl cause Lisa is Like a pit bull if any girl tries to flirt with me and if I dont grab her quick enough it's all springer show like with panties showing hair pulling and face scratching which Im totally into but you have to think of the girls besides I wanna watch that kinda stuff at home on my couch with a video camera rolling. Lol. Course Im no better I caught some biker eyeing her up one day at a traffic light so I stuck my middle finger up and started cursing at him which got him to stop looking but put me in the doghouse cause the girls where in the backseat lisa's all real smooth get in a fistfight and get locked up how you gonna explain that to the girls .........well sweety daddy has to go with the police because he's a loudmouthed jackass
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 11:37 AM
dude, that's funny. you should have seen rigid in the movie theater the other day. and so far each time we go there's some incident of sorts but this was the worst. there we were watching wallace and gromet when halfway through it this mans phone rings nice and loud. so i looked over nate (the man was sitting two seats from nathan) and made a face at the man. rigid of course says "SSHHHHH" when the man got on the phone and started talking to his friend. thing is he wasn't even trying to be quiet. he was talknig as though he was outside which freaked me the hell out.
so rigid being the nice english gentleman that he is told him to please turn his phone off and shut the fuck up. the man half looked at him and ignored him to continue his riveting conversation. so i mutter "asshole" under my breath and rigid say's " turn your fucking phone off now or i'll turn it off for you you fucking cunt!. turn it off now or i'll give you a fucking slap." all the while pointing his finger at him very accusingly. i swear i saw rigid turn purple in front of my face. but when i saw this mans little girl sitting on his lap i put my hand on his chest and told him to settle down.
the man finally gets off the phone and asked nathan why he talked to him that way (it was a pretty bad accent) and can't he be nicer about the way he asked him to get off the phone and gestured to his daughter. so i shushed the man and told him to be quiet in spanish and no one said a peep after that. course rigid wouldn't stop muttering fucking cunt under his breath.....eventually i was able to settle in and watch the movie.
but something kept bugging me. the little girls face. so after things settled down a little bit i let nathan know that the next time he decides to do something like that he better make sure that there are no children around. he said he didn't care that the cunt deserved it .........ask him again if he still doesn't care. :)
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:47 PM
Man that was so frekin funny I can just imagine ridgid ready to kick that guy's ass in the theatre kid or no kid that was pretty effin ignorant to take a call like that in the movie.
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:17 AM
it was really stupid. how can you think it's okay to take a call and speak as you normally would. retard man.
a few weeks ago we went to go see the exorcism of emily rose. now that movie is all dialogue. the cut scenes to the past were the only ones where there were loud noises. the whole thing was in a courtroom for gods sakes so you can just imagine how quiet the whole thing was. especially since there was no music in the background.
i don't know what got into my friend that day, but he decided to go way up to the top to sit. well, you know that's where all the kids hang out and screw around. and sure enough we were stuck around a shitload of teenagers who were busy laughing and giggling and yapping away. it was so annoying.
rigid turned around and talked shit to some of the kids and they kind of shut up, but of course it didn't really stop them. i already had my hand on him so he kept a little calm, but we eventually moved way closer to the screen. didn't really matter though. to be honest the movie was so quiet that you could hear a pin drop in the theater. people kept getting up for breaks or just to leave the theater. that was a really hard movie for people to watch. a little too cerebral for some people there.....i guess since they pushed it as a horror flick people weren't expecting dialogue. lol
Ding Dong's or Dinga Lings???
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From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/31/2005 2:18 PM
ding dong's sillys! come on! i haven't told everyone like a million and one times what the ding dongs are for??? lol well, i'm always more than happy to oblige regarding my mementos so here we go.
as you all know i'm having crackers at the wedding to intergrate a lovely and very english tradition. since nate is going to be totally imersed in mexican tradition that day i decided that i also needed a grooms cake. i'd like us both to feel special on our wedding day and i wanted to do everything i could to make him feel like he was a part of it all too.... it's all too easy to make the whole thing about me you know. lol well, i decided i also needed a grooms cake.
traditionally grooms cakes are made of chocolate....i think. anyhow i decided to do the ding dong because i really wanted to put a nice choclatey something into a box wrapped in a pretty ribbon to giveaway at the reception. well, i wracked my brain until is suddenly hit me. a ding done with our monogram would look lovely in a little white box.
now, why the ding dong? they don't have hostess cupcake stores in england...least not to my knowlege SO when we met he told me that he'd never had a twinkie before. i think i asked him. "NO TWINKIES????" i shrieked...."DING DONGS????.....NO????? OH MY GAWD!!!!" so the next time we went to a 7-11 i bought him the first twinkie, chocodyle and ding dong i could find. i had him stuffing his face full of all kinds of yummie treats in the next few weeks.
well....i didn't think that bright yellow twinkies would make a very nice memento, or that anyone would appreciate shoving a big dark choclatey torpedo into their mouths so i chose the chocolate covered ding dong and decided to add our initials in a lovely handpiped monogram. i did a practice run with jam and it worked out rather nicely.
i have white giradelli chocolate just waiting to be melted so i'm going to prep the boxes like 1 to 2 weeks before the wedding and pipe the dingdongs like thursday or friday so they can be their freshest. them i'm going to take the ding dongs and place them in the box (the boxes will be prewrapped in a red ribbon tied around the sides of the box) and put one box out per chair. so ....that means i'll have to pipe our monogram 75 times.....lol i'm really wishing my family had let me do my own cake. how cool would that have been??? lol
one of my original ding dong ideas had been to stack a bunk of ding dongs in a circle till i got it down to just a single ding dong at the top. i would have piped some nice designes on it to fill in any cracks....anyhow, i thought it was a great idea, but nate thought it was a little hokey. lol
anyhow, that's my ding dong story. i know...i'm a nerd. lmao!
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/31/2005 2:18 PM
ding dong's sillys! come on! i haven't told everyone like a million and one times what the ding dongs are for??? lol well, i'm always more than happy to oblige regarding my mementos so here we go.
as you all know i'm having crackers at the wedding to intergrate a lovely and very english tradition. since nate is going to be totally imersed in mexican tradition that day i decided that i also needed a grooms cake. i'd like us both to feel special on our wedding day and i wanted to do everything i could to make him feel like he was a part of it all too.... it's all too easy to make the whole thing about me you know. lol well, i decided i also needed a grooms cake.
traditionally grooms cakes are made of chocolate....i think. anyhow i decided to do the ding dong because i really wanted to put a nice choclatey something into a box wrapped in a pretty ribbon to giveaway at the reception. well, i wracked my brain until is suddenly hit me. a ding done with our monogram would look lovely in a little white box.
now, why the ding dong? they don't have hostess cupcake stores in england...least not to my knowlege SO when we met he told me that he'd never had a twinkie before. i think i asked him. "NO TWINKIES????" i shrieked...."DING DONGS????.....NO????? OH MY GAWD!!!!" so the next time we went to a 7-11 i bought him the first twinkie, chocodyle and ding dong i could find. i had him stuffing his face full of all kinds of yummie treats in the next few weeks.
well....i didn't think that bright yellow twinkies would make a very nice memento, or that anyone would appreciate shoving a big dark choclatey torpedo into their mouths so i chose the chocolate covered ding dong and decided to add our initials in a lovely handpiped monogram. i did a practice run with jam and it worked out rather nicely.
i have white giradelli chocolate just waiting to be melted so i'm going to prep the boxes like 1 to 2 weeks before the wedding and pipe the dingdongs like thursday or friday so they can be their freshest. them i'm going to take the ding dongs and place them in the box (the boxes will be prewrapped in a red ribbon tied around the sides of the box) and put one box out per chair. so ....that means i'll have to pipe our monogram 75 times.....lol i'm really wishing my family had let me do my own cake. how cool would that have been??? lol
one of my original ding dong ideas had been to stack a bunk of ding dongs in a circle till i got it down to just a single ding dong at the top. i would have piped some nice designes on it to fill in any cracks....anyhow, i thought it was a great idea, but nate thought it was a little hokey. lol
anyhow, that's my ding dong story. i know...i'm a nerd. lmao!
Bridal Shower
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From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/12/2005 2:36 PM
well this nearly didn't happen for many reasons.....which i've already explained to nearly all of you 'cause i love to gossip and the things i've been going through are pretty incredible. lol so many strange things have been happening to me here and there. and to be honest i think the way i take it has a lot to do with the amount of stress i'm under. (of course it does.)
i don't think i could get myself together if i didn't have all of you guys around me so thanks for listening to my constant whining and bitching. there's no way i could be as happy as i am right now with out each and every one of you and i know you know that i know that you know who you are....you know? (don't ask. i had to do it...i have an impulse control problem....and i haven't even had any coffee today!)
okay, so here's some happy news. my sister and misery are hosting a bridal shower/bachelorette party on November 5th 2005. my sisters husband and simmer (the bestman) will be hosting a bachelor party for rigid the same day.
this is what we agreed on. because we don't all want to get down and dirty right away we decided to do a simple little co-ed get together from 2-6pm. at 6 a sex education lady is going to come and show us her wares (so we can buy them - think of her as the tupperware lady of plastic dildo's) from 6-7....i think that will be the point where the men just hand over their wallets and go outside while the lady's become extremely aquainted with a bananna and an anal butt plug. once we get what we want out of that lady the men and women will seperate ....actually were just kicking all the men out of the house so we can get nasty! lol (by the way no purchase will be required, but if you see somethin you want it's cash or check.)
at 7pm the bachelor party hosts will wisk the groom away to a seedy bar where they'll lavish him in titties and buttholes the whole night long....ply him with loads of alcohol and see what his english tolerance is really like. i'm sure they'll make him drink till his eyes cross. too bad too cause if he does i don't think i'll get to try out my new bananna moves. lol
i'm not sure what my sister has in store for me. obviously loads of girly games, alcohol and a stripper....you know. she thought it would also be nice to have a girl stipper there too, but i convinced her that the minority of people who would actually enjoy a female stripper was pretty ....well.....minor. lmao! and i also warned her not to go insane and get like 2 or 3 different men. i don't think i could take that much ....(i won't say it. lol)
so all is well and things are back on track.
keep an eye out for the shower invite 'cause i'll be putting them in the mail next week. think i'll also be putting out the wedding invites in the mail on friday....starting to feel likei waited too long!!!
thanks everyone! let me know if you have any questions too!
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From: Elisa Sent: 10/12/2005 3:04 PM
OOOOoooooooohhhh! I wanna go!!!. I'll probably have to cry to my hubby to take me,,,,,,,,maybe if I tell him that I'm going to take some sex lessons, he might say YES!!!...jajajajiiijjiij....
Oh, but let's face it! It will probably will be impossible to go, I'm going to be super busy helping Chuny with the Bautizo. See these are the problems you run into when you have family all over. Oh well, you will have to show me all the pictures ....(I mean ALL the Pictures!!!!)
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 8:00 AM
*sigh* dude, at this point i've lost all hope!!! lol i can't believe the shit i've been going through with this...that we've all been going through.
first, i had to get involved when i realized what was starting to happen. i knew my sister had something up her sleeve because of a few comments she'd make here and there. so i talked to misery about it. we talked about a shower and about what i would like because of the fact that rigid has no one out here. we decided on a co-ed thing.
i spoke to my sister and let her know what was up. well she was disapointed that i was getting involved, but i had to let her know what my schedule was like. if anyone was planning a shower it had to be before november because there's just way too much going on! so i gave her my schedule and she let me in on the big secret she was trying to plan.
once we got over that part the next thing was to find a place to do it at. well, since both david and his girlfriend offered so many times over the past month and a half i thought i would take them up on their offer to use their back yard. you have to understand they were BOTH quite adamant about it. that's it's not a problem, no it's not wierd, yes it would be so much fun and any time we want to blah blah blah. well, i thought that was extremely nice of them and when i was nearly ready to send out the invites i called again to confirm. .....something was up, but dave wouldn't say. he just asked me to ask his girlfriend instead...something about family issues this month.
so i thought, no problem....it's for next month anyway. i called a few days later and the response i got was a little shocking. no explanation, no reason...nothing. just...."no, i don't think so." and that was it. so my brain starts doing all these things like, what did i do to offend? what happened? was it me? is it family? and then i start running those words over and over again in my head as i do with most everything and suddenly it hit me. dur! *bangs head on wall* this person is not my friend. omg....what a moron. of course, by this time i'm curled up in little ball (as little as my big ass can get lol) on my bed crying. not because i don't have a place to do my shower, who gives a shit about that, but because i felt i lost a friend.....a friend i never actually had. what an idiot.
so now i feel like a complete and utter fool and no i have no problems sharing this because...well, everyone knows i'm a fucking open book (to a degree) and the best way to get over hurt is by sharing anyhow. this is a long as story so get ready. lol
as it turns out dave told me that it was to do with an ex-wife thing. so now i'm left thinking, WOW, and see what she did for what it really was. a wedge. a hatchet....a giant bridge. what a dummy i am. well such is life and i've made a few realizations myself so it's time to really move on. and move on i have, BUT there's still the issue with the party.
at this point i'm ready to throw my hands up, i know there are people i could ask, but i was left without the will to really bother. i mean what the hell is the point right? i'm ready to give up and the next hurdle was how in the hell i was going to break it to my little sister....my little sister who is not on her meds. and i know that no matter what she says to me, because she would be very angry and upset, isn't coming from her heart but i was already very anxious and after all the shit i've been put through couldn't bear to hear it from her too. so i spoke to misery first...trying to get the courage to tell my sis.
well, i hung up with her and went home. tried not to think about calling her but i knew i couldn't delay it anymore. i got home and nancy called....said her sister offered her home to us and i was relieved. how cool is she to do that? i told my sister afterwards...first i told her how i was going to cancell the whole thing and right away she starting biting at me. then i let her know about misery's sister and she still had awful comments to make. she eventually changed her tune and warmed up to the idea, but it's really hard to talk to her when she's like this.
but oh my god our luck!!! the next day poor nancy got a call from her sisters husband. it's their anniversary that weekend and he planned something special. so now mis has to give her an excuse to tell her we can't do it that day! LMAO!!! can you believe that? so then she has to break the news to me.LOL misery sounded like she was preparing me for someones death! lol let me tell you this turn of events didn't surprise me in the least. there's something getting in the way here. as far as i'm concerned the reason it's not happening is because something terrible is going to happen. and i'd much rather avoid it at this point. lol misery asked me to stay out of the planning from here on out and let her and my sister handle it from here on out and i'm more than happy to do just that.
so from now on the only thing i'm going to think about is my wedding day and the little things i need to get this done. i'm so behind to. i really have to finish choosing the music for the dances during the party and the music for the video! i have so much to do!
anyhow, in the end i'm sure things will turn out for the best. i plan on sending out all my wedding invitations as planned, but that's about it....
thanks for listening guys! xoxoxo
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 10/12/2005 2:36 PM
well this nearly didn't happen for many reasons.....which i've already explained to nearly all of you 'cause i love to gossip and the things i've been going through are pretty incredible. lol so many strange things have been happening to me here and there. and to be honest i think the way i take it has a lot to do with the amount of stress i'm under. (of course it does.)
i don't think i could get myself together if i didn't have all of you guys around me so thanks for listening to my constant whining and bitching. there's no way i could be as happy as i am right now with out each and every one of you and i know you know that i know that you know who you are....you know? (don't ask. i had to do it...i have an impulse control problem....and i haven't even had any coffee today!)
okay, so here's some happy news. my sister and misery are hosting a bridal shower/bachelorette party on November 5th 2005. my sisters husband and simmer (the bestman) will be hosting a bachelor party for rigid the same day.
this is what we agreed on. because we don't all want to get down and dirty right away we decided to do a simple little co-ed get together from 2-6pm. at 6 a sex education lady is going to come and show us her wares (so we can buy them - think of her as the tupperware lady of plastic dildo's) from 6-7....i think that will be the point where the men just hand over their wallets and go outside while the lady's become extremely aquainted with a bananna and an anal butt plug. once we get what we want out of that lady the men and women will seperate ....actually were just kicking all the men out of the house so we can get nasty! lol (by the way no purchase will be required, but if you see somethin you want it's cash or check.)
at 7pm the bachelor party hosts will wisk the groom away to a seedy bar where they'll lavish him in titties and buttholes the whole night long....ply him with loads of alcohol and see what his english tolerance is really like. i'm sure they'll make him drink till his eyes cross. too bad too cause if he does i don't think i'll get to try out my new bananna moves. lol
i'm not sure what my sister has in store for me. obviously loads of girly games, alcohol and a stripper....you know. she thought it would also be nice to have a girl stipper there too, but i convinced her that the minority of people who would actually enjoy a female stripper was pretty ....well.....minor. lmao! and i also warned her not to go insane and get like 2 or 3 different men. i don't think i could take that much ....(i won't say it. lol)
so all is well and things are back on track.
keep an eye out for the shower invite 'cause i'll be putting them in the mail next week. think i'll also be putting out the wedding invites in the mail on friday....starting to feel likei waited too long!!!
thanks everyone! let me know if you have any questions too!
XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
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From: Elisa Sent: 10/12/2005 3:04 PM
OOOOoooooooohhhh! I wanna go!!!. I'll probably have to cry to my hubby to take me,,,,,,,,maybe if I tell him that I'm going to take some sex lessons, he might say YES!!!...jajajajiiijjiij....
Oh, but let's face it! It will probably will be impossible to go, I'm going to be super busy helping Chuny with the Bautizo. See these are the problems you run into when you have family all over. Oh well, you will have to show me all the pictures ....(I mean ALL the Pictures!!!!)
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 8:00 AM
*sigh* dude, at this point i've lost all hope!!! lol i can't believe the shit i've been going through with this...that we've all been going through.
first, i had to get involved when i realized what was starting to happen. i knew my sister had something up her sleeve because of a few comments she'd make here and there. so i talked to misery about it. we talked about a shower and about what i would like because of the fact that rigid has no one out here. we decided on a co-ed thing.
i spoke to my sister and let her know what was up. well she was disapointed that i was getting involved, but i had to let her know what my schedule was like. if anyone was planning a shower it had to be before november because there's just way too much going on! so i gave her my schedule and she let me in on the big secret she was trying to plan.
once we got over that part the next thing was to find a place to do it at. well, since both david and his girlfriend offered so many times over the past month and a half i thought i would take them up on their offer to use their back yard. you have to understand they were BOTH quite adamant about it. that's it's not a problem, no it's not wierd, yes it would be so much fun and any time we want to blah blah blah. well, i thought that was extremely nice of them and when i was nearly ready to send out the invites i called again to confirm. .....something was up, but dave wouldn't say. he just asked me to ask his girlfriend instead...something about family issues this month.
so i thought, no problem....it's for next month anyway. i called a few days later and the response i got was a little shocking. no explanation, no reason...nothing. just...."no, i don't think so." and that was it. so my brain starts doing all these things like, what did i do to offend? what happened? was it me? is it family? and then i start running those words over and over again in my head as i do with most everything and suddenly it hit me. dur! *bangs head on wall* this person is not my friend. omg....what a moron. of course, by this time i'm curled up in little ball (as little as my big ass can get lol) on my bed crying. not because i don't have a place to do my shower, who gives a shit about that, but because i felt i lost a friend.....a friend i never actually had. what an idiot.
so now i feel like a complete and utter fool and no i have no problems sharing this because...well, everyone knows i'm a fucking open book (to a degree) and the best way to get over hurt is by sharing anyhow. this is a long as story so get ready. lol
as it turns out dave told me that it was to do with an ex-wife thing. so now i'm left thinking, WOW, and see what she did for what it really was. a wedge. a hatchet....a giant bridge. what a dummy i am. well such is life and i've made a few realizations myself so it's time to really move on. and move on i have, BUT there's still the issue with the party.
at this point i'm ready to throw my hands up, i know there are people i could ask, but i was left without the will to really bother. i mean what the hell is the point right? i'm ready to give up and the next hurdle was how in the hell i was going to break it to my little sister....my little sister who is not on her meds. and i know that no matter what she says to me, because she would be very angry and upset, isn't coming from her heart but i was already very anxious and after all the shit i've been put through couldn't bear to hear it from her too. so i spoke to misery first...trying to get the courage to tell my sis.
well, i hung up with her and went home. tried not to think about calling her but i knew i couldn't delay it anymore. i got home and nancy called....said her sister offered her home to us and i was relieved. how cool is she to do that? i told my sister afterwards...first i told her how i was going to cancell the whole thing and right away she starting biting at me. then i let her know about misery's sister and she still had awful comments to make. she eventually changed her tune and warmed up to the idea, but it's really hard to talk to her when she's like this.
but oh my god our luck!!! the next day poor nancy got a call from her sisters husband. it's their anniversary that weekend and he planned something special. so now mis has to give her an excuse to tell her we can't do it that day! LMAO!!! can you believe that? so then she has to break the news to me.LOL misery sounded like she was preparing me for someones death! lol let me tell you this turn of events didn't surprise me in the least. there's something getting in the way here. as far as i'm concerned the reason it's not happening is because something terrible is going to happen. and i'd much rather avoid it at this point. lol misery asked me to stay out of the planning from here on out and let her and my sister handle it from here on out and i'm more than happy to do just that.
so from now on the only thing i'm going to think about is my wedding day and the little things i need to get this done. i'm so behind to. i really have to finish choosing the music for the dances during the party and the music for the video! i have so much to do!
anyhow, in the end i'm sure things will turn out for the best. i plan on sending out all my wedding invitations as planned, but that's about it....
thanks for listening guys! xoxoxo
The Bridal Shower Party
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 11/7/2005 9:48 AM
okay, so this was supposed to be a shower/bachelorette party. the guys were leaving around the time the sex ed lady came around to do their own thing and then the stripper was supposed to show.
well....things didn't go according to plan. no one came to the shower except one of my cousins from san diego. my neighbor came and my sister and maid of honor. my sister made shit loads of jello shooter, misery bought a crap load of wine and we started drinking around 5 pm. the sex lady got there around 6 but we waited for more people to show. no one came. LOL it was so funny. so we got started with the sex ed lady. the boys joined us as well.
so we sat there passing around dildo's and lubrication and lotions...all sorts of stuff. i couldn't wait to buy something. course by this time i'm fucking blitzed! and at this point my sister started the little drinking game she concocted....heh........heh.......
we all had name tags on.. mine was Likmai Toona and rigid was Hugh G. Rection....you get the picture. oh....and for some reason the likes of which is still a mystery to me i decided not to eat anything until after the sex lady was done displaying her wares. well....my sister kept interrupting her to make people take shots when they said the wrong name (we were supposed use the name tag names only) we realize now that it was a huge error in judgement on our part.....and the even huGER error was when my sister decided to give double and triple shots for saying the wrong name back to back.
for instance the first time i made a mistake i called oren, my neighbor...oren instead of dirty pussy. i took a shot. the second time i said gloria twice (my sister) instead of Ivana Humpalot and i took a double shot. the third time i fucked up royally cause i called my sister 3 times in a row so she served me a triple shot.......the whole idea was just flat out idiotic....i had eaten so many jello shooters (which were fucking strong as hell) and had so much wine that i couldn't see straight....then throw all the shot's into the mix. at one point i remember being really thirsty and drinking wine to quench my thirst. i think misery saw that and gave me water to drink...course by this time i can't remember a god dammed thing....anyhow i'm jumping ahead of myself so lets get back to the sex lady.
so i'm like on my triple shot and sipping on that (cause i pounded the other shots like no tomorrow) and rigid thinks i'm perfectly fine. apparently i wouldn't detach myself from his face and kept asking him to stay, but then the stripper got there and he ran out of the house like a bat out of hell taking oren and simmer (his best man) with him. my brother in law stayed behind to watch the kids so that was another guy that didn't get to go with nate. well, the real fun began at this point. a few more people had already gotten there so there were a few extra girls there. the stipper....i can't even remember what he looks like because i was busy closing my eyes and and sheilding my face from his swinging junk. at one point he bent me over and threw my legs up and proceded to hump me in mid air....i have pictures....that mother fucker was strong. lol
he then laid me down on the floor and threw his towel off and started to swing his stuff around my face. it felt like a little feather was sweeping across my cheek. my eyes were shut tight and my head was bent so far back i could touch the floor with my cheek! i was freaking the hell out already. i mean that was more than enough for me and quite fun, but the fucker decides to flash everyone my boobs and try to .....anyway i don't want to get too graphic but i literally shoved the guy so hard i nearly knocked him the fuck down. he also yanked my unides all the way up so that they looked like freakin' thongs and tried to take my pants down....no fucking way am i going to let someone do that. and then he turns me around suddenly and begins to spank me on the ass!!!! HARD!!!!! well, retelling this is really funny and going through it was hilarious. i had so much fun i was screaming and laughing my ass off the whole time. and misery took some good pictures. after he was done with me he started to work on the rest of the girls. i got some good pictures too. that was so much fun.
the next thing i know its over and the sex lady is going on about her plastic penisesses. and at this point things begin to get really foggy. the other stipper got there and my sister started to bicker with them. apparetnly we were one black guy short (don't ask) and she was asking the guy what happened. well he got offended and all the strippers left with all the money. misery kept trying to tell me that my sister was fighting with the stripper....i don't quite remember what happened, but i ment to come around to see what was going on but my body wasn't moving. i just turned to look at her and her mouth was moving, but i couldn't hear much....it was like a freaking 30 second delay. lol after that i don't know what the hell happened.
mis told me i went outside with everyone and smoked some more cig's....i was drinking wine. people eventually started to leave . some firemen came to the house and told my sister and her friends to be careful and go back inside the house....(i don't know why) someone cut my cake though i dont remember who or where i was or even who I was. the next thing i know i'm having an out of body experience. i saw my mom take me by the arm and walk me to the bedroom to go lie down. i saw us walking away into the room...what a fucking nut!!! turns out i was crying the whole time. i remember my mom asking me what was wrong and i said i was drunk.....mis came to the room and asked me the same.....all i knew was that i was drunk.
people were asking me things and i kept answering, but i don't think any of it ever made much sense. the next thing mis knows is that one min i was crying and the next i was out like a light. passed out cold. mom got scared cause i wasn't responding at all. the eventually called rigid and simmer and they rushed back home. party was over and the bride probably had alcohol poisoning. wonderful.
so rigid gets there and then the real fun begins. he tried to take me home. i'll say it again.....HE TRIED TO TAKE ME HOME. he woke me up had my neighbor take my shoes off and tried to get me to walk. he said i said i wanted to go home....i can't remember anything. it's all a blur. they kept telling me to walk, but i couldn't register it. my feet wouldn't move or they'd try to move together and i'd collapse. there was no way i was getting out of there on my own. then rigid said i tried to dig my nails into his arms for some reason so he decided to leave me there. so i stayed at my moms house and woke up all alone. *pop* my little brain turned back on around 7 am and i was like "what the fat fucking hooha happened to me last night?" well my mom woke up a little after me and started to tell me how horrible rigid was. that he kept yelling at her so she yelled back...all kinds of stuff. basically i ruined his night out and can't remember mine. lmao!
all in all i had a great time at least that's what they tell me! i just wish i could remember it!!!!
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 11/7/2005 9:48 AM
okay, so this was supposed to be a shower/bachelorette party. the guys were leaving around the time the sex ed lady came around to do their own thing and then the stripper was supposed to show.
well....things didn't go according to plan. no one came to the shower except one of my cousins from san diego. my neighbor came and my sister and maid of honor. my sister made shit loads of jello shooter, misery bought a crap load of wine and we started drinking around 5 pm. the sex lady got there around 6 but we waited for more people to show. no one came. LOL it was so funny. so we got started with the sex ed lady. the boys joined us as well.
so we sat there passing around dildo's and lubrication and lotions...all sorts of stuff. i couldn't wait to buy something. course by this time i'm fucking blitzed! and at this point my sister started the little drinking game she concocted....heh........heh.......
we all had name tags on.. mine was Likmai Toona and rigid was Hugh G. Rection....you get the picture. oh....and for some reason the likes of which is still a mystery to me i decided not to eat anything until after the sex lady was done displaying her wares. well....my sister kept interrupting her to make people take shots when they said the wrong name (we were supposed use the name tag names only) we realize now that it was a huge error in judgement on our part.....and the even huGER error was when my sister decided to give double and triple shots for saying the wrong name back to back.
for instance the first time i made a mistake i called oren, my neighbor...oren instead of dirty pussy. i took a shot. the second time i said gloria twice (my sister) instead of Ivana Humpalot and i took a double shot. the third time i fucked up royally cause i called my sister 3 times in a row so she served me a triple shot.......the whole idea was just flat out idiotic....i had eaten so many jello shooters (which were fucking strong as hell) and had so much wine that i couldn't see straight....then throw all the shot's into the mix. at one point i remember being really thirsty and drinking wine to quench my thirst. i think misery saw that and gave me water to drink...course by this time i can't remember a god dammed thing....anyhow i'm jumping ahead of myself so lets get back to the sex lady.
so i'm like on my triple shot and sipping on that (cause i pounded the other shots like no tomorrow) and rigid thinks i'm perfectly fine. apparently i wouldn't detach myself from his face and kept asking him to stay, but then the stripper got there and he ran out of the house like a bat out of hell taking oren and simmer (his best man) with him. my brother in law stayed behind to watch the kids so that was another guy that didn't get to go with nate. well, the real fun began at this point. a few more people had already gotten there so there were a few extra girls there. the stipper....i can't even remember what he looks like because i was busy closing my eyes and and sheilding my face from his swinging junk. at one point he bent me over and threw my legs up and proceded to hump me in mid air....i have pictures....that mother fucker was strong. lol
he then laid me down on the floor and threw his towel off and started to swing his stuff around my face. it felt like a little feather was sweeping across my cheek. my eyes were shut tight and my head was bent so far back i could touch the floor with my cheek! i was freaking the hell out already. i mean that was more than enough for me and quite fun, but the fucker decides to flash everyone my boobs and try to .....anyway i don't want to get too graphic but i literally shoved the guy so hard i nearly knocked him the fuck down. he also yanked my unides all the way up so that they looked like freakin' thongs and tried to take my pants down....no fucking way am i going to let someone do that. and then he turns me around suddenly and begins to spank me on the ass!!!! HARD!!!!! well, retelling this is really funny and going through it was hilarious. i had so much fun i was screaming and laughing my ass off the whole time. and misery took some good pictures. after he was done with me he started to work on the rest of the girls. i got some good pictures too. that was so much fun.
the next thing i know its over and the sex lady is going on about her plastic penisesses. and at this point things begin to get really foggy. the other stipper got there and my sister started to bicker with them. apparetnly we were one black guy short (don't ask) and she was asking the guy what happened. well he got offended and all the strippers left with all the money. misery kept trying to tell me that my sister was fighting with the stripper....i don't quite remember what happened, but i ment to come around to see what was going on but my body wasn't moving. i just turned to look at her and her mouth was moving, but i couldn't hear much....it was like a freaking 30 second delay. lol after that i don't know what the hell happened.
mis told me i went outside with everyone and smoked some more cig's....i was drinking wine. people eventually started to leave . some firemen came to the house and told my sister and her friends to be careful and go back inside the house....(i don't know why) someone cut my cake though i dont remember who or where i was or even who I was. the next thing i know i'm having an out of body experience. i saw my mom take me by the arm and walk me to the bedroom to go lie down. i saw us walking away into the room...what a fucking nut!!! turns out i was crying the whole time. i remember my mom asking me what was wrong and i said i was drunk.....mis came to the room and asked me the same.....all i knew was that i was drunk.
people were asking me things and i kept answering, but i don't think any of it ever made much sense. the next thing mis knows is that one min i was crying and the next i was out like a light. passed out cold. mom got scared cause i wasn't responding at all. the eventually called rigid and simmer and they rushed back home. party was over and the bride probably had alcohol poisoning. wonderful.
so rigid gets there and then the real fun begins. he tried to take me home. i'll say it again.....HE TRIED TO TAKE ME HOME. he woke me up had my neighbor take my shoes off and tried to get me to walk. he said i said i wanted to go home....i can't remember anything. it's all a blur. they kept telling me to walk, but i couldn't register it. my feet wouldn't move or they'd try to move together and i'd collapse. there was no way i was getting out of there on my own. then rigid said i tried to dig my nails into his arms for some reason so he decided to leave me there. so i stayed at my moms house and woke up all alone. *pop* my little brain turned back on around 7 am and i was like "what the fat fucking hooha happened to me last night?" well my mom woke up a little after me and started to tell me how horrible rigid was. that he kept yelling at her so she yelled back...all kinds of stuff. basically i ruined his night out and can't remember mine. lmao!
all in all i had a great time at least that's what they tell me! i just wish i could remember it!!!!
Holy Catechism Batman!!!!
Maharet's Brood
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 7/21/2005 9:05 AM
okay, i don't really know why i used that title. what a retard. anyhow, as you guys well know i'm getting married in a catholic church. i was raised a catholic...well, that is up until the time i was to do my *quinceanera. you see...i was baptised before i was 1, but i never did my first communion. when i turned 15 my mom gave me a choice. do you want a quinceanera party or a scooter? i chose the scooter. so the day came to do my quinceanera and here i was...a veritible heretic having never performed my catholic duties as a young girl. so we scambled to get my 1st communion done. unfourtunately it was at a lutheran church!
it was cheaper and my mom didn't much care at the time especially considering that we'd get a discount on the hall for the reception if we did things this way. so...i'm a sort of christian hybrid of catholisism and lutheranism. (you can throw in a little evangelist from my crazy youth too. boy what a nut. *sarc*) i eventually lost my faith in religion. things just sort of fell away as i grew older. it became an experience akin to the feeling you get when you find out santa clause isn't really real. and that your mom really is buying all the presents....even though she doesn't have enough money to do it. all those little things seemed to draw me in that direction...that and the church hiding all the molestations that occur. blajhhh. icky stuff. i eventually fell away from the church and it's flock. i became...agnostic. i forgot about the church, refused it's authority and clung to the fact that one could neither prove nor disprove the existence of god therefore who FUCKING cares. though i still believed. i still had faith.
that faith faded away as the years went on. it faded to the point where i no longer viewed myself as agnostic, but atheist. i believed in nothing. but, given that i'm naturally a very open minded person i never really clung to that. it made no sense to me to believe that i was an atheist and yet respect those who believed in....something. so i eventually ended up in some limbo of sorts which allowed me to be comfortable enough to sit in church with my family if the 'special occasion' called for it and be quite respectful of other people and their beliefs. i've tried all sorts of things to get myself to get that faith back. i've read some of the gita, i've read the bible (not all of it of course), i've studied religious history, i've learned little about buddism...(very little), i even keep track of the census of the worlds major religions....not sure why, but no faith. my mother has told me it would come back on it's own. not to say i don't have it and my sister has simply given up. she does the "oh yeah, nevermind. you don't believe in that stuff do you?" kind of thing.
you know, when i talk about faith i don't only mean god. i mean everything...ghosts, extraterrestrials, the devil, angels, the guiding light at the end of the tunnel, vampires, the human race etc. etc. so when rigid suggested....no, insisted on gettnig married in church i wasn't too keen on the idea. but i wasn't adverse to it either. as things have progressed and i've begun to go through the motions of getting my baptism certificate, sending off paperwork to england to get signed by his friends and stamped by their church, setting an appointment to have the priest meet my friends to talk about me....all those little things have stirred a little something in me. more emotion towards rigid and...something.
i just went to my first catechism class at St Mariana de Paredes in Pico Rivera, CA. i was told that i would not be baptised until easter of next year, but that it'll be glorious. i said i can't wait that long because i'm getting married in nov. the teacher said i could talk to my priest to see if he will marry me in lieu of my 1st communion provided i remain in the course. well, thats another thing i'll have to deal with and i'll get to it when i do, but my whole thing today is about my class. about the faith that they kept talking about. here's the hump i seem to have to overcome. how am i supposed to go through this course not believing in anything? how can i sit there in class and tell these people yeah, i want to do my 1st communion so i can get married in church but i don't believe in shit? wtf?
this is a bit of an ethical dilema i think. one that i'll have to get over one way or the other because i intend on getting married in church. as rigid's so eloquently put it, "come hell or highwater fuck it, were getting married in church!!!" lol so i'll end up doing either one of two things....lie.....or......believe. how melodramatic.
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*What is a Quinceanera
A Quinceanera is a celebration of a girls fifteenth birthday.It is a special occasion because it is when a girl becomes a woman. Hispanic girls all over the world celebrate this occasion. The difference between a Quinceanera and any other birthday party is that it is fancier and you invite more people. The first thing you do is go to church the day of your Quinceanera. You invite your closest relatives like aunts, uncles, parents, godparents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, cousin, and close friends. The priest talks to you about becoming a woman. Once the spiritual ceremony is over you move on to the social part of the Quinceanera. At this time your many invited guests come to celebrate your becoming a woman. This is where you celebrate by having a band play live music and dance all night.
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 7/21/2005 9:05 AM
okay, i don't really know why i used that title. what a retard. anyhow, as you guys well know i'm getting married in a catholic church. i was raised a catholic...well, that is up until the time i was to do my *quinceanera. you see...i was baptised before i was 1, but i never did my first communion. when i turned 15 my mom gave me a choice. do you want a quinceanera party or a scooter? i chose the scooter. so the day came to do my quinceanera and here i was...a veritible heretic having never performed my catholic duties as a young girl. so we scambled to get my 1st communion done. unfourtunately it was at a lutheran church!
it was cheaper and my mom didn't much care at the time especially considering that we'd get a discount on the hall for the reception if we did things this way. so...i'm a sort of christian hybrid of catholisism and lutheranism. (you can throw in a little evangelist from my crazy youth too. boy what a nut. *sarc*) i eventually lost my faith in religion. things just sort of fell away as i grew older. it became an experience akin to the feeling you get when you find out santa clause isn't really real. and that your mom really is buying all the presents....even though she doesn't have enough money to do it. all those little things seemed to draw me in that direction...that and the church hiding all the molestations that occur. blajhhh. icky stuff. i eventually fell away from the church and it's flock. i became...agnostic. i forgot about the church, refused it's authority and clung to the fact that one could neither prove nor disprove the existence of god therefore who FUCKING cares. though i still believed. i still had faith.
that faith faded away as the years went on. it faded to the point where i no longer viewed myself as agnostic, but atheist. i believed in nothing. but, given that i'm naturally a very open minded person i never really clung to that. it made no sense to me to believe that i was an atheist and yet respect those who believed in....something. so i eventually ended up in some limbo of sorts which allowed me to be comfortable enough to sit in church with my family if the 'special occasion' called for it and be quite respectful of other people and their beliefs. i've tried all sorts of things to get myself to get that faith back. i've read some of the gita, i've read the bible (not all of it of course), i've studied religious history, i've learned little about buddism...(very little), i even keep track of the census of the worlds major religions....not sure why, but no faith. my mother has told me it would come back on it's own. not to say i don't have it and my sister has simply given up. she does the "oh yeah, nevermind. you don't believe in that stuff do you?" kind of thing.
you know, when i talk about faith i don't only mean god. i mean everything...ghosts, extraterrestrials, the devil, angels, the guiding light at the end of the tunnel, vampires, the human race etc. etc. so when rigid suggested....no, insisted on gettnig married in church i wasn't too keen on the idea. but i wasn't adverse to it either. as things have progressed and i've begun to go through the motions of getting my baptism certificate, sending off paperwork to england to get signed by his friends and stamped by their church, setting an appointment to have the priest meet my friends to talk about me....all those little things have stirred a little something in me. more emotion towards rigid and...something.
i just went to my first catechism class at St Mariana de Paredes in Pico Rivera, CA. i was told that i would not be baptised until easter of next year, but that it'll be glorious. i said i can't wait that long because i'm getting married in nov. the teacher said i could talk to my priest to see if he will marry me in lieu of my 1st communion provided i remain in the course. well, thats another thing i'll have to deal with and i'll get to it when i do, but my whole thing today is about my class. about the faith that they kept talking about. here's the hump i seem to have to overcome. how am i supposed to go through this course not believing in anything? how can i sit there in class and tell these people yeah, i want to do my 1st communion so i can get married in church but i don't believe in shit? wtf?
this is a bit of an ethical dilema i think. one that i'll have to get over one way or the other because i intend on getting married in church. as rigid's so eloquently put it, "come hell or highwater fuck it, were getting married in church!!!" lol so i'll end up doing either one of two things....lie.....or......believe. how melodramatic.
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*What is a Quinceanera
A Quinceanera is a celebration of a girls fifteenth birthday.It is a special occasion because it is when a girl becomes a woman. Hispanic girls all over the world celebrate this occasion. The difference between a Quinceanera and any other birthday party is that it is fancier and you invite more people. The first thing you do is go to church the day of your Quinceanera. You invite your closest relatives like aunts, uncles, parents, godparents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, cousin, and close friends. The priest talks to you about becoming a woman. Once the spiritual ceremony is over you move on to the social part of the Quinceanera. At this time your many invited guests come to celebrate your becoming a woman. This is where you celebrate by having a band play live music and dance all night.
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