Maharet's Brood: "Guest List Conundrum"
From: Maharet_FB (Original Message) Sent: 9/19/2005 11:18 AM
i've been so busy at home and at work that i'm about to crack up. they've just given me a temp to work with for a few hours today and all that did was slow me down for the rest of the day. now i feel like i haven't gotten anything done today and like i'm not going to either.
i've gotten loads of things done in preperation for the wedding too, but i still have quite a lot to buy. my check list is almost complete though. and i'm trying to finish off my guest list as well. i've filled up all the chairs by including the children.
had a conversation with my friend the other day and she told me that in the weddings she's been to people will customarily pay for an adult dinner so the kids will have a seat. i redid my list to include the kids that i already have on my list and if i don't invite anyone else i have a total of 76 on it. not including kids under 10 for an adult meal though...there's my nephew, my cuz' kid and a couple of other kids under 10.
i think that leaves me with a few options.:
i can order pizza or finger foods for the kids under 10 (i know i've discussed this with all of you already but i can't help feeling overwhelmingly guilty about making people feed their kids before coming to the reception or gettnig them something there themselves). maybe even get them a table where food will be served specifically for them. (i have to discuss that option with geezers)
if i do the above i can either leave the list as is and only invite those currently on it
OR i can invite over the current guest list and see what happens. (i'd only invite an additional 10 people- that's enough to offset the kids i think....thereabout.)
my head is just about spinning and i know someone will eventually tell me not to worry about it, but the fact remains that i intended on trying to feed the kids too if i was able to muster it....and i am....
OH and one thing i'm annoyed with is the issue my mom's brought up on several occassions. i love this question, "okay, so how many people can i invite?" wtf? i didn't even know my mom HAD any friends let alone any that she'd think i'd want to invite!!!! should i feel guilty about telling her she's a retard? okay, so i didn't tell her that but i did say no way. why should i invite someone to my wedding that i don't even know? my mom goes from job to job all the time. i've never known any of her friends and she's never brought them around. she's totally antisocial and suddenly she wants to bring people to my wedding??? i don't get it. and i know it sucks but i wasn't exactly nice about saying no either. the first time she asked she was drunk so i took it as one of her usual brain farts, but the other day she was relatively sober (and i do use the term loosly) and realized that she was really serious.
i know she told me not to worry about it and that she didn't care one way or the other if she invited her friends, but am i crazy for not giving her a few slots? i'm really upset about this actually. i think more than i realized cause my stomach is hurting. who knew she had friends? SHE'S NEVER INVITED ANYONE TO ANYTHING.....I SWEAR!!!!! why suddenly this? OMG.....i just figured it out. i'm such an asshole. my mom's all about making impressions....at least she used to be. this is just one of those old things resurfacing. she wants to ...apantayar (if i spelled that right) or impress. these are people that she works in a warehouse with and she wants them to see how pretty and elegant she can be. i think i just put my finger on it. well.....i think i'll tell her to take them the pictures! lmao!!!!
i'm such a mean daughter!
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From: VI0L8RSGIRL1 Sent: 9/19/2005 5:19 PM
Well, Michelle..you need to look at it this way...This is your wedding! You do what makes you happy. But that is your mom..hahaha But i wish we could be your list too!! But i am so happy for you!!
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/20/2005 9:40 AM
maybe if my mom acted more like a real adult instead of a martyr i'd be more than happy to include the friends i didnt know she had. lol i can't wait for the wedding. i'm sure my mom's going to make it interesting.
did i ever tell you guys the story of the time she started falling down all over the reception hall at my quincianera? she threw a big ass party for loads of people. i honestly dont know how the poor woman did it, but she did. i don't think she truly got to enjoy the fruits of her labor though because she got so wasted at the party that she kept fainting. apparetnly her girdle was too tight. to be quite honest i think she simply worked too hard and by the time it came down to the party she was so overwhelmed and unable to breath that the drinking really knocked her on her ass. several times.
she was fine after taking it off, but she scared all her sisters and made quite the scene. ah well....such is life. this time she won't be able to throw on a tiny ass corset. her belly would bust right through it! lol i'm so mean!!!! i love my mommie, but i really like to make fun of her too. besides, i know most people have mommies just like mine. they mean well, and they try hard, but there's just something there that they don't quite get anymore. i can't for the life of me figure out why. i wonder if it'll be the same for me when i have grown up children?
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From: Elisa Sent: 9/20/2005 10:44 AM
Ahhhhh!!!jajajajiiii!!. Ahy Michelle! I don't rember my tia passing-out at your Quinseanera......Probably, because my mom wasn't there....and I was too busy having a good time....I think it was my first party as a teenager without my mom...I just remember that I dance all night long, with God knows who??
oh! and don't be too rude with your mommie, she just wants to show-off how prety her dauther is going to look at her "big day"......
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 9/21/2005 8:43 AM
i know. that's why i feel so guilty about it! it's horrible being me. i don't know how i've escaped having an ulcer. i swear that when my eyeball is twitching from the stress i can feel one growing on my stomach....*eye twitch*
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 5:02 AM
What's the worst that could happen your mom gets a lil tipsy with her friends and makes you dance with her a bit? Just remember to firmly say no if she wants to do it on chairs or tables keep it on the dance floor besides it's easier for your family to record the big fall so they can win 5,000 on funniest home videos. Course it would be funnier if Marvin Gaye's sexual healing was playing and she started grinding on nathan now that would be funny to watch him squirm
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/12/2005 10:54 AM
phff....you wish that was the worst that could happen. i think the worst that could happen is that she'd get so drunk that she'll start falling all over the place and pee on herself. lol course she's never EVER done something like that. lol that's just the worse thing that could happen i think. omg.....
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:49 PM
one word comes to mind "DEPENDS" the adult diaper
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From: vi0l8r Sent: 10/12/2005 4:50 PM
Besides make a deal tell her she can invite a few freinds if she promises to behave. But tell her in a nice way
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From: Maharet_FB Sent: 10/13/2005 7:09 AM
i'll be honest. i'm thinking about it. i mean you never get a 100% turnout at a party so i may as well give my mom a few extras. i'm so mean! ok....i'm going to ponder on this some more. lol